Sure we all had a great weekend? Well mine was just okay. A little boring but I made it through.
Some of us know that song by AKA ‘jealousie’….nice tune. I was chatting with a friend over the weekend when she told me her BF was mad at her coz of her closeness with a certain family friend. I’m sure the poor guy feels the other guy has a thing for his lady but according to her, he’s just like a brother to her. LOL. I should really talk about the ‘BROTHER ZONE’ sometime later tho….LOL.
I don’t know about you but I think jealousy in a relationship is a good thing. Ok! Ok! Calm down, you know I’m not talking about possessive psychopaths who won’t allow you talk to the waitress or the cab driver without accusing you of flirting. What I mean is, it’s good to have a partner who is afraid to lose you and sometimes gets jealous when someone else is having your time and attention.
Now when it comes to jealousy, I believe there’s a fine line between what is sane and irrational. Not an obsessive lover who would punch any man who says “hi” to you in the face. I believe some of us have seen that Nollywood movie ‘Private Storm’. I don’t mean that kind of jealousy that makes a man vibrate and almost kill himself and the poor lady. Naaaah….that’s far from normal….that’s just plain crazy!
Jealousy can be a good thing and it can also be a very bad thing. If you have a lover who doesn’t appear to be concerned when you are hanging out with a particular male friend or female colleague a lot then my dear, there’s a little problem. I’m not saying he or she would fight you over it but a little teasing comment like “you and this friend tho” should come from your man or woman.
On the other hand, jealousy can also be an indication of insecurity and obsessive power. If your partner fights with you after every phone call from a male colleague or female client then you should know he/she is insecure.
I think the remedy is for both parties to sit down and have a frank talk. Reassure yourselves of your commitment to each other. Let him/her know that there’s no reason to allow his/her insecurities destroy the love that you both share. Do your best to keep to your words.
Let your significant other explain to you the habits/mannerisms that appear flirtatious to him/her. Try and adjust to these things in order to avoid excessive jealousy which invariably results to bitterness, loss of trust, resentments and paranoia.
And if you are the jealous lover, Biko calm down ooo…..jealousy can result to high blood pressure. hehehe take it easy abeg o. Not everything is what it appears to be….Easy does it!
Love right, Stay happy…
Have a blessed week