ARE YOU JEALOUS?

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Sure we all had a great weekend? Well mine was just okay. A little boring but I made it through.

Some of us know that song by AKA ‘jealousie’….nice tune. I was chatting with a friend over the weekend when she told me her BF was mad at her coz of her closeness with a certain family friend. I’m sure the poor guy feels the other guy has a thing for his lady but according to her, he’s just like a brother to her. LOL. I should really talk about the ‘BROTHER ZONE’ sometime later tho….LOL.

I don’t know about you but I think jealousy in a relationship is a good thing. Ok! Ok! Calm down, you know I’m not talking about possessive psychopaths who won’t allow you talk to the waitress or the cab driver without accusing you of flirting. What I mean is, it’s good to have a partner who is afraid to lose you and sometimes gets jealous when someone else is having your time and attention.

Now when it comes to jealousy, I believe there’s a fine line between what is sane and irrational. Not an obsessive lover who would punch any man who says “hi” to you in the face. I believe some of us have seen that Nollywood movie ‘Private Storm’. I don’t mean that kind of jealousy that makes a man vibrate and almost kill himself and the poor lady. Naaaah….that’s far from normal….that’s just plain crazy!

Jealousy can be a good thing and it can also be a very bad thing. If you have a lover who doesn’t appear to be concerned when you are hanging out with a particular male friend or female colleague a lot then my dear, there’s a little problem. I’m not saying he or she would fight you over it but a little teasing comment like “you and this friend tho” should come from your man or woman.

On the other hand, jealousy can also be an indication of insecurity and obsessive power. If your partner fights with you after every phone call from a male colleague or female client then you should know he/she is insecure.

I think the remedy is for both parties to sit down and have a frank talk. Reassure yourselves of your commitment to each other. Let him/her know that there’s no reason to allow his/her insecurities destroy the love that you both share. Do your best to keep to your words.

Let your significant other explain to you the habits/mannerisms that appear flirtatious to him/her. Try and adjust to these things in order to avoid excessive jealousy which invariably results to bitterness, loss of trust, resentments and paranoia.

And if you are the jealous lover, Biko calm down ooo…..jealousy can result to high blood pressure. hehehe take it easy abeg o. Not everything is what it appears to be….Easy does it!

Love right, Stay happy…

Have a blessed week

Love,

L’queen

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  3. Belloteeh says

    Hello Queen of D Diva I no Am running to Late to Contribute Dats Kos My Contribution was Held up @ Go Slow Anyway Am Here I love The write up Is Enlightening Kos u see Jealousy In a Relationship Most Definately Come But It Has 2 Have Limit That’s When Trust Comes In So U See Am Not Saying One Should Trust Blindy Know The Character Of The person U ar In a Relationship And with the level of Affection Already Establish With Your Partner You Can Call When Your Jealousy Intuition Kicks Hi Honey How ar u just Missing you So what are You Upto? He or She Will Definately Tell Then Finish With An I Love You. From The Responce You Shall Detect. That’s (one). The other If It Is a Physical Flirting Haba Guy or Lady You Should know Since every Thing Is Happening In Your Face That Means There Is No Skeleton in The Closet Is Just Social Civilazation So They Say But If It Passes Some Certain Limit You Can Talk To your Partner in Private Later And Raise your Yellow Cards So As To Make Amendment But If Changes Is Not Made Don’t Wait Raise The Red Flag Ok If you are Married. With Then Set Boundary So As you will Be Good Leaders To Your Kids.like me I heard A Girl Dat I left Kos she Is Feeling my jealosy is Low And It Aint so And I realy Do Care Is just that Am a Step Ahead of Her I do know in The Social Civilazation of Relation Am not Saying Am Cassanova But it Grew To she Seem Jealous of My Siblings And My Family People And Mind You we Aint Married So You I Tried Making Her See My Vision But No Way So God Vindicate me From Her kos her Attitude Drove me Away My Family Also made it Clear 2 me Dat she Aint Miss Rite know That We Ar Not Together I know see the Truth clearly She Is Formbling To find My pair I Wish her the Best But I Told her I love her But her Attitude I hate so she say we Should be Friends I Did But Still on Still She Started Crossing Her Friend Boundry OMG I my Mad just help me see wahala She Deleted me in her contact Someone That Is Telling me To Be Civilised and let’s Be friends even if we are not in a Relationship no more …. Na wa wo when insanity meets sanity.hmmm

  4. Belloteeh says

    Hello Queen of D Diva I no Am running to Late to Contribute Dats Kos My Contribution was Held up @ Go Slow Anyway Am Here I love The write up Is Enlightening Kos u see Jealousy In a Relationship Most Definately Come But It Has 2 Have Limit That’s When Trust Comes In So U See Am Not Saying One Should Trust Blindy Know The Character Of The person U ar In a Relationship And with the level of Affection Already Establish With Your Partner You Can Call When Your Jealousy Intuition Kicks Hi Honey How ar u just Missing you So what are You Upto? He or She Will Definately Tell Then Finish With An I Love You. From The Responce You Shall Detect. That’s (one). The other If It Is a Physical Flirting Haba Guy or Lady You Should know Since every Thing Is Happening In Your Face That Means There Is No Skeleton in The Closet Is Just Social Civilazation So They Say But If It Passes Some Certain Limit You Can Talk To your Partner in Private Later And Raise your Yellow Cards So As To Make Amendment But If Changes Is Not Made Don’t Wait Raise The Red Flag Ok If you are Married. With Then Set Boundary So As you will Be Good Leaders To Your Kids.like me I heard A Girl Dat I left Kos she Is Feeling my jealosy is Low And It Aint so And I realy Do Care Is just that Am a Step Ahead of Her I do know in The Social Civilazation of Relation Am not Saying Am Cassanova But it Grew To she Seem Jealous of My Siblings And My Family People And Mind You we Aint Married So You I Tried Making Her See My Vision But No Way So God Vindicate me From Her kos her Attitude Drove me Away My Family Also made it Clear 2 me Dat she Aint Miss Rite know That We Ar Not Together I know see the Truth clearly She Is Formbling To find My pair I Wish her the Best But I Told her I love her But her Attitude I hate so she say we Should be Friends I Did But Still on Still She Started Crossing Her Friend Boundry OMG I my Mad just help me see wahala She Deleted me in her contact Someone That Is Telling me To Be Civilised and let’s Be friends even if we are not in a Relationship no more …. Na wa wo when insanity meets sanity.hmmm

  5. Eesemoore says

    Jealousy hmmm. As you said tolu its actually a good thing wen u notice ur partner is jealous of one of your friends it makes u feel special and attractive again! But this doesn’t mean it should me overdone sha… The key to solving jealousy issues is just understanding. 😀 tolu nice one again keep it up

  6. yvonne says

    Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru this piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  7. yvonne says

    Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru ur piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  8. yvonne says

    Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru ur piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  9. ayuzekable says

    Lovely write-up once again. I think jealousy is very neccessary in a relationship. I’m can be VERY jealous,but not up to d psychopatic/die-hard jealousy thing…dats just crazy as U said. @Tope, Ur comment is right,nd I like ur point.

  10. ayuzekable says

    Lovely write-up once again. I think jealousy is very neccessary in a relationship. I’m can be VERY jealous,but not up to d psychopatic/die-hard jealousy thing…dats just crazy as U said. @Tope, Ur comment is right,nd I like ur point.

  11. temitope egbeyemi says

    Really nice work, love wat your doin…about jealously, illd really love to comment on it cos v had several experiences wiv diff “over jealous ladies”..i recently had a relshp go bad all in d name of jealousy. Like u said, jealously is a good thing in a rel/shp buh it becomes a prob wen it leads to irrational acts. In dis particular relship of myn, dis girl was so jealous dat using a lady as DP of my BBM profile was not allowd. She goes thru all ma chats, fone calls, msgs, n facebook pages. I also cudnt hav ladies arnd @ all..dis made me feel so conered n unfree that i was lookn 4 a way out. The funniest part of it was that i neva even tot of cheatin on her cos i really liked her.. Wah m trying to draw out from this is dah in a relshp, what u fink may not be so. U can ask, nd solve matters maturely, cos u may end up loosing what ur fighting for.

    1. lqueen
      lqueen says

      Awww n den she lost u in the end. Paranoia is common with ladies sha. Thanks Tope

  12. temitope egbeyemi says

    Really nice work, love wat your doin…about jealously, illd really love to comment on it cos v had several experiences wiv diff “over jealous ladies”..i recently had a relshp go bad all in d name of jealousy. Like u said, jealously is a good thing in a rel/shp buh it becomes a prob wen it leads to irrational acts. In dis particular relship of myn, dis girl was so jealous dat using a lady as DP of my BBM profile was not allowd. She goes thru all ma chats, fone calls, msgs, n facebook pages. I also cudnt hav ladies arnd @ all..dis made me feel so conered n unfree that i was lookn 4 a way out. The funniest part of it was that i neva even tot of cheatin on her cos i really liked her.. Wah m trying to draw out from this is dah in a relshp, what u fink may not be so. U can ask, nd solve matters maturely, cos u may end up loosing what ur fighting for.

    1. lqueen says

      Awww n den she lost u in the end. Paranoia is common with ladies sha. Thanks Tope

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