We all have read so much about how horrible people feel when a relationship ends and quite a good number of us have had our hearts broken at least once. While I think the hurt and painful feeling that comes with a breakup is worthy of discussion, what I wanna talk about today is a tad different.
First, I want to make it clear that I’m not in anyway championing the course that you abandon your relationship at the first hint of trouble or disagreement, but I feel the need to talk to a good number of us who keep putting plaster on an already broken relationship.
If the truth must be told, most of us have already seen clear signs that the relationship will not work long ago, but instead of facing the actual fact, we turn a desperate blind eye. You’ve read the writings on the wall but you just keep assuming it was addressed to someone else.
The reason for this is not far-fetched, considering the fact that so many of us are fixated on the expected goal (Marriage) that we neglect altogether the necessary processes required to reach the ultimate goal. Often times, we forget that flogging a dead horse won’t ever bring it back to life.
If a relationship keeps pulling you back and hinders you from progress; that’s a sign! If you begin to feel alone in your relationship, that’s a sign! If it suddenly begins to feel like you are forcing yourself on your significant other, that’s a sign! When love becomes unrequited, that’s a sign!
At some point, we have to take a bold step and remove the life support holding us bound to an UN-fulfilling relationship. I know how hard that could be, trust me its very difficult but in the end it’s a very good decision. The fact is someone that was once the wind beneath your wings could suddenly become the weight that keeps you back…sometimes its best to let go.
All these things take time and it might not be easy to do it all at once, but reality puts a slightly different perspective on things. Of what use is it, holding on to something that is already broken? At a point you have to take the bull by the horns and do what you gatta do….its hard! But you won’t know the sun could shine if the dark clouds never rolled away. Who knows? by closing the door to that relationship, you might have opened the door to an amazing one.
The longer it takes you to admit you’ve taken the wrong road, the longer it takes you to get on the right one. Accept it! Sometimes we do get it wrong but that’s okay, it’s the only way to figure out how to get it right.
We all learn from our mistakes and with each mistake we can come to realize what it is exactly that we need in our lives. Sometimes we hold on to people way past their expiration date. God is trying to give us GREATER but we keep holding on to what WAS great.
Trust God for strength to believe that tomorrow would be far better than yesterday.
Keep your head up this week, its gonna be productive!
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