It’s my Birthday! More than any other thing I’m so grateful to be alive. Only my family knows the inside gist but I’m beyond blessed to still be breathing right now. The past year pressed and squashed me on all sides, despite all the boisterous winds that nearly took me out, I still got blessings that beat my wildest imaginations. Thank you Jesus!
On this special day of mine, I figured it would be nice to share a few things that life taught me afresh in the past year with you guys.
I would be lying if I said I only learned these 4 things in the past year. I have shared some of my lessons in this blog post and this other one too but I think amongst all I think these 4 things really stood out in the last couple of months. I also think it would be a reminder to someone out there going through my kind of season.
4 major things I learned this past year;
Nobody owes you anything, get up and work for your own
It’s easy to want to rely on people, friends, neighbours, family, church etc but the truth is when that help or assistance doesn’t show up as expected, you have to quit the pity party and do what you have to do.
After giving birth in a new city, I was hoping that the family friends I had would show up at least to visit and all that but till this day I haven’t even heard from them. It was a little disappointing but I shook it off after realizing the above.
So I’ll encourage you to quit anticipating what others can do for you, do your best, struggle for your own. Rely on God more and don’t expect so much from people even when they make empty promises. Work hard, be diligent. Whatever thy hand findeth to do, do it with all thy might! It might not be “good enough”, it might seem insignificant but remember God is the rewarder. He’s the one who gives the power to get wealth.
God is only committed to his purpose for your life and not your own desires
If you ask according to his will/purpose he will do it but when it’s not in accordance to his will, forget it. There were days in the past year when I cried and prayed earnestly for certain things to come my way but they never came.
At some point, God started showing me that he had a totally different plan. Boy! Was I sad about it? Absolutely! I sulked for weeks maybe months to be honest. I didn’t know how to look beyond my own aspirations and accept his purpose for me. I’m learning to do that now, I can’t tell you accepting his will has been easy, there are times when my mind drifts and I still desire those same things.
However, I know for a fact that what he gives me is what is best for me. I’m holding on to him for the rest of life…you should too!
Everyone’s journey is different
Before now, I used to beat myself up, “I’ve been blogging for years what do I have to show for it? Some people started yesterday, look how far they have gone.”
In the past year, I realized that it’s best to just focus on getting better than trying to compete with everyone else.
As much as I love to do this, I just want to create content I’m passionate about and not try to fit into what someone else thinks is ideal. Someone once told me “if only you were a fashion blogger, you would have gone far” I chuckled. As much as I don’t want to be complacent, I’m content with writing about the things I’m passionate about as against joining the bandwagon to blog about Fashion.
I’m grateful for all the opportunities/paid collaborations that came my way last year and the growth that the blog garnered also. Can’t believe the blog is turning 7 in a couple of months.Yaay!
Regardless of where you are in life, irrespective of how slow you think things are going, just know that your journey is peculiar and there’s no need to use anyone else as your scorecard or yardstick to measure your success.
Take care of yourself too
As a wife and mom, it’s easy to put everyone else’s needs above yours. After having my daughter, I developed this strange gratification from always seeing an empty laundry basket. So regardless of how tired I was from working and doing other chores I would feel unfulfilled each day if a tiny bib or onesie was left in the laundry basket.
At some point, I realized I was just wearing myself out for no reason so I’m slowly learning to take it easy. Okay confession, I just washed a few onesies, pyjamas and socks from last night I found in the laundry basket when I returned from work again today so I’m not totally over this tho….Lol. God help me!
Henceforth, I’m making a conscious effort to only do what I can at a time, take work that I know I can finish within the timeframe, take breaks as often as possible, think positive, jog daily, take solo trips around town and enjoy alone time. In the end, you have to love and care for yourself (mentally and physically) to be able to do the same for your family the right way.
I’m praying that the years ahead are lived in line with God’s perfect will and that I can positively impact more lives via my platforms as the Lord graciously empowers me. Happy Birthday to me!
Say a prayer for me.