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  1. Hi, L’queen

    I write articles on Bollywood Gossip News, but I have an opportunity to read your article during internet search.You are really great writer and your image collection is awesome. I really like it.

    Your Article is very useful for beginner. Keep it and post more useful articles.

    Thanks 🙂

  2. Super advice Tolu. Even if you are married, I learned that self-love and acceptance precedes happiness. I had to love me, and accept me, and be comfortable being signal, before I met my wife, who is THE match for me. Rocking blog. Keep up the great work.

  3. Thank you so much for sharing…
    Plus i just became consistent in all of your posts..they are real good. Cheers

  4. Blog posts first!!! I’m so excited to read about all the tips and stories associated with pregnancy plus the difference between Nigeria and the abroad.

    Congratulations once again, sis. Jason is now a big brother.

    1. Debs! I’ll definitely be blogging first. Jason was jealous for the first few days but now he loves her. I’ll insert clips showing both of them bonding on my Youtube channel. Thanks a lot

    1. I can totally understand that. It requires constant bidding and effort but once you get a good first client it’s easier from then on. Pls put in a little more effort if you’ll love to earn from it. I wish you all the best.

  5. Ah tolu, spot on. Lately, my finances has been making me super scared but I have been taking it one day at a time with the believe that God hasn’t brought me this far to put me to shame.

    On hair making, wig has been my source of saving here and there as well as making some style that can last for weeks.

    These are amazing tips that would definitely help every woman.

    http://www.debwritesblog.com

    1. Awww Deb’s thanks for leaving your thoughts. I think when it comes to finances just being content with what you currently earn, maximizing it to the fullest by saving as much as you can and investing it wisely is the way to go. Someday soon you’ll have more than you even need by God’s grace. Thank you so much for leaving your thoughts Debs. I really do appreciate you.

  6. Thanks for sharing your tips they were really helpful , I especially loved the tips on house keeping and meal prepping in other to still have me time as a wife.. I am going to be a Mrs soon it’s daunting..

    1. Yaaay congratulations hun (Iyawo to be)…so glad you found the tips helpful. Meal prepping sure helps relieve the stress of cooking from scratch during the week and it saves time! You can’t imagine how relieved I am this Saturday evening after cooking a pot of Egusi soup and a pot of stew for the week. Thanks for reading love

  7. I think life is a lot easier if we stop putting pressure on ourselves and just focus on what we can do and be happy. Thanks for sharing darling, you’ve been so amazing. I appreciate you ❤️

  8. I’ve just basically been taking life the way it comes for the past few months. No extra pressure for anything, just do the right thing and drop it.

    Thanks for sharing these amazing tips!

  9. Birth Month? June

    Favourite Colour(s)? Black & White (can’t leave one out)

    5 Places i would love to go? Bahamas, Oslo, Sydney, Paris, and Los Angeles

    What do i enjoy most? Video Games, Live Football Games.

    Favourite topics? LIfe, Faith, Network Engineering or IT generally and yeah lot of memes too.

    Favourite mode of communication? SMS, WhatsApp.

    Favourite bible verse? 1John5:7

    Favourite food? None for now

    Favourite Series? SEAL Team, Strike Back, Designated Survivor & Power

    Turn on? Humilty, Kindness and Understanding

    Turn off? Pride, Bullshit, Drama, Selfishness.

  10. This post is so concise. After watching my sister go through this journey, I can definitely relate with most of this points.

    Mothers are definitely amazing!

  11. Agbo jedi! You are a case. But then i can definitely relate. If I ever have to leave outside Nigeria, I still wonder how i would survive cos of food. I am a sweet tooth and i can easily go for those street food when need be plus all those very local foods like Amala and Gbegiri made with firewood.

    Sweet Lord! And not being able to ask for jara, aaaaaaaaargh!

    1. Ah Debs it’s so difficult, you know how they tempt you with all sorts of sweet things here and then not having Agbo jedi handy is a serious problem. Thanks for reading hun

  12. You know I was just going to check on you yesterday but work overwhelmed me and i could not. I am glad you are fine and even learning more in the process.

    All the best, sis.

  13. This is so true. Ds is one tn ppu don’t talk about bt its so real. No one will ever tell you thats wot adulthood feels like or dat dey experienced or are experiencing such. U end up feeling like u are d only lonely person in world. Not sure I m ryt bt I tnk, ladies tend to be more lonely dan guys esp while married, apart from d fact dat its not easy to make friends, married women are naturally expected not to av close friends cos its blved dat its bad for marriage. And u dare nt av male friends too. I may b wrong sha, m not married, so I don’t know, maybe its jst an assumption.

  14. After Uni and I was home for a long time before NYsC, it was so difficult for me to make new friends. I had become so used to my Uni friends. Same with during NYSC, but eventually I settled in and started getting used to the new life and making new friends.

    It can be hard especially when it comes to differences and the rest but eventually it will be.

  15. I definitely know this struggle. I have had days that my brows are so not similar, I had to wipe it all clean. And I have had days were it seems I had just walked our of a make up studio!!!

    You have come a long way mehn, mine is an eyesore…hahahahah

  16. Mumc and I once forgot something we had bought, in one of those big double decker red buses in London, we started to chase the moving bus but quickly realized London buses wait for noone… and oh you cant imagine the shocked stares ?
    Glad you are enjoying NYC sissy. Hope to visit soon ?

  17. I know you already know that I will leave a comment. Almost 2 years a naturalista now and there’s no going back for me!? I’m so in love with my hair right now, I’d do anything to protect it. My go to routine is to wet with water and moisturize with coconut oil. I also wash twice monthly with sulphate free products. I’m glad you changed your mind and went back to natural hair ?

  18. I am so interested in how to use Mailchimp. I already have it set up and I have quite a number of subscribers…I just feel so lazy about figuring it out!

    This is a very good post and quite insightful.

  19. Such a beautiful love story!

    Me I am scared about a public proposal o, as much as I’d love it…I am just too shy.

    God bless their union. And I love your subtle slight interjection in between.

  20. Femi was a cool headed person for d fee years i knew him. Thouhh , we were nt so close but i knw he has dis passion for adventure, studying, music & he loves God . Such an inspiring story. I wsh dem a blissful union.

  21. When I opened the post, my first reaction was that I know this guy!!!
    AAUA faces.
    Very beautiful love stories. Stereotypes will always happen, but totally up to us to stand together irrespective of this. I wish them all the best, congratulations.

  22. I’m on social media a lot now because I’m trying to grow my blog, howvpever I agree that there has to be breaks! Normally when I’m out with people I mainly talk to, I don’t mind if my phone dies because I’m with my people anyway.Sometimes I can go a while without social media if I plan things to do with my friends. Also, thankfully, China sensors most social media websites, so I can only go on when I have the patience to deal with a vpn???

    Thanks for sharing!

  23. So true. This post really is one that everyone should go through! Social media is becoming an addiction and we should really learn to unplug from it all at regular intervals.

  24. I love everything about this post! Kudos to you for dreaming big and getting out of your comfort zone. I wish you much success in reaching the rest of your goals this year!

  25. I am definitely addicted to social media these days but that’s because I am trying to grow my following! But I agree, it can do so much harm to people’s sense of self and overall self-esteem. Great post!

  26. Hi, I am so proud of you for taking the proper steps to move into a positive direction with your future. I am especially proud of you for making sure and adding God into your equation because like me, I believe nothing can be accomplish without the grace of God being involved. You are on the right path and seem to have a great head on your shoulders. Keep moving forward and never stop thinking positive thoughts.

  27. I loved this so much! I have already published two books and plan on publishing two more before the year is out. You start to learn to tune out those who don’t see what you see. It’s not about them anyway. I still have way bigger dreams to accomplish besides being an author. An author is just the starting point. It’s getting there.

  28. ????? He got nerves tho! With the repititive returns! Wow…I’ve only encountered those ones at the ATM who will claim their cards is trapped and they have no dime on them to go home.

    I fell for it on a few occasion but in this Global age, braaa, there are other means…You should have a mobile banking on your phone and another account that can help biko…

    Too much fraud everywhere for someone to even believe which is true or not!

  29. Awww…………my baby is getting married…..am so happy for you. i wish i could be there live but not to worry Deji will represent wella….congrats dearies

  30. Congrats Darling Ayoola and Lanre, the Lord will make your home a pavilion of happiness. Ayoola I’m so happy for you.

  31. a side hustle is a must! I love the fact that you have multiple side hustles and thank you for the ideas and inspiration. Time to get the hustle on!

  32. I’m in the process of doing this and I don’t think people understood why. I felt like it was the right thing to but just couldn’t pinpoint exactly why. This has all the answers and some!

  33. Hmmmm. Nice one write up, just that the way the world is going, marriage has become a normal rite and competition.but I wish the society can accept that not everyone is meant to be married. True happiness doesn’t lie in marriage. Better to be single and happy than married in pain.

  34. Bimbo is such a lucky lady to have kunle.i have known kunle from university days,he was my classmate and kunle is such an easy going guy.so calm and friendly.I remember seeing him like 4yrs after school around ifako Gbagada and he still has that calm and friendly spirit.
    Kunle is a kind of person that would call u to greet u even if you are forming..lol.truely he’s so respectful.

    Congratulations to you both on your big day.may the lord keep you guys together and bless u with all fruitfulness of marriage in Jesus name,Amen

  35. Congrats Kunle and bimbo can’t wait to be part of ur big day. God bless your Union mightily in Jesus Name amen.

  36. Happy birthday boy,Today is also my wedding day and I key into the anointing that brought you into this world to give me this wonderful testimony your mum gave also in 9month from now in Jesus name.
    Happy birthday Jay

  37. Happy marital blizz ebak and abby.reading the whole love story thing made my day.I couldnt just help but to keep smiling…..This is awesome

  38. What a wonderful couple, surrounded by great family and friends that will forever cherish them. May God bless your union and this just the beginning of greatness in your lives . Love you both xxx

  39. Am so so happy for them, I would never have thought both of them together but God just does his things in special ways. Congratulations guys! This is Hilda wishing you a blessed home. Much love ?

  40. Awww, my Cisco friend Ebak; my ofada rice paddy, am so happy for you!
    Met Ebak way back in 2014 at New horizon Computer learning center Ikeja Lagos. Can’t remember how we started talking but we soon became reading pals. We passed our CCNA and CCNP route together. One distinct thing; he is always talking to Abbey about everything! He later moved to UK, and I to the US.. awww, I wish you both all the best marriage has to offer and more!

  41. Beautiful story! I know the Bride and her family, and I can testify they’re wonderful people. I pray God bless Ebak & Abby’s union with all the blessings beyond their imagination.

  42. Favourite food: Can’t answer that, although my least favourite is Yam.
    Fav Tv series: The big bang theory (seen every episode at least 3 times).
    Fav Bible Verse: Psalm 84:11
    Things i wish i had: The power to end poverty.

  43. Hmmmmmmmm…my own na miracle sef. My wife and I were tryn to relocate last year. It was september and our rent would expire October ending; we dint want to say a day extra so we started looking. We got a place where our friends stay. A nice comfy 2bed in the same compound with our friends but it was goin for 400k as againt d 250 we were paying. By faith, we spoke with d caretaker, pleaded and pleaded for th price to b reviewed downward since our neighbours in a more lush 3bed in dt compound were paying 400k too. D man said ours had tiles everywhere and POP too…we said ‘Oga, come and remove it o’…Lolz…
    I told the man that we were not ready cos I wanted to exhaust my current rent by October so we wd just keep in touch and see if d place was still available by den (actually, money no dey…Lolz…).
    Long story short, 2days before expiration of rent, I called d man to pls accept 400k at d time so we wd pay d agreement&agency later. He refused. Hands tied, I made d transfer that night and we moved in the next day.
    As the bus bringing our things drove into d compound that Saturday morning, my wife looked up to the balcony of the first floor and exclaimed “Mummy! Daddy!”…Lolz…
    Long story shorter, the caretaker is the younger brother of the owner (resident abroad), both of whose elder sister is the wife of my wife’s father’s childhood and very good friend till date. Strange reunion…
    I had to quickly revisit d rent issue nau…D caretaker confessed that he got other offers but actually reserved d place for us cos somehow, wenever I spoke with him, I was always polite&all. First of all, he paid me d agreement fee, saying since Im a lawyer, I should prepare it myself, den d rent was reduced (not as much as I would have liked…but…u know…)
    It really is a small world o.

  44. The impact of this program will remains for long in the lives of these girls. This program is well plan and directs at right audience at the right stage of their lives.
    Seyi-Daniel together with her team has really touched these youths. They will forever remain grateful to you.
    This is a great dream. I hope you will nurture it until you touch many more lives beyond this continent, Africa!
    Great job. Please keep it up!
    God bless you richly!

    1. Wow! Thank you so much for believing in this God given vision. I pray God uses us all to touch more lives positively with whatever project we lay our hands on.
      I really appreciate you sir, I won’t stop saying it. You are a great man! Thanks again

  45. Ah, quite insightful. That laziness point is super key…I can’t imagining sweating out in the kitchen and uncle will just be lying down on the couch and asking why the food is taking so much time…

    Interesting post!

    1. As in ehn Deb you are so right! Some men are so lazy i just can’t deal, I give praises to the most high that the hubs is not like that ooh. I think he is even more into house chores and all than I am *covers face*
      I’m just the head of Kitchen affairs in our house, every other thing the hubs takes major credit for.

  46. Edwin has really said my mind. It would have been alot better if Andrews had informed Dave while he was still away. And about dating one’s friend’s ex,well it majorly depends on the reason for the breakup and also the attitudes of the two former lovers towards each other at present…

  47. Hmmm…. @niyi, I think I agree with you on the aspect where he should have stayed away from his friend’s ex because no matter how you look at the situation from Dave’s point of view, Andrew is a bad friend who has always had eyes for his girlfriend(jane) even while he(dave n jane) where dating. From another point of view, I think Andrew should have told/talked about he and Jane to Dave while he was still abroad, at least that would have cleared things up a bit. Everybody deserves a second chance, depending on the situation surrounding the issue, but I don’t think Dave deserves one though cause it’s clear his intentions are just like the first time (he is just infatuated with her not in love wit her). About dating your friend’s ex, I don’t think it’s wrong I just believe it will be best for you to discuss it with your friend before going for/taking it further. And if he doesn’t agree/accept it then you decide if at the end of the day she is worth losing your friendship over or if that friend is truly worth keeping. My view though

  48. To my point of view, Dave was only after the beauty of Jane he never appreciated her value ND that was why the relationship could not last cuz he was only attracted to her beauty, but Andrew on the other hand loved her right from the 1st day and also some appreciated her, knows her worth, also noticed the character embedded in her beauty, he also took his time. Andrew didn’t rush and respected his friend Dave but there was something that amazed me was that they met after a long while ND the chemistry was still there, Andrew still loved Jane despite all and they started a relationship… Andrew was looking beyond the beauty. He actually loved her.he respected her.

  49. This case is a kind of dicey. But I wish he had stayed away from his friends ex anyway, except if the friend is now married and he still feel for her, then he can talk to her. This life is not always a matter of yes and no, white or black. It may be grey

  50. I wouldn’t say he is wrong because he wasnt responsible for the break up between Dave and Jane.life is all about choices.

  51. This is really a nice article, I will say that men should learn to control anger and women should stay away from boxers till they learn to be proper men. I support raising law against women abuse. Women are lovely and tender and must be treated like that

  52. Yea…only a coward beat a woman….the brave ones will walk away if they can and if they can’t they will b submissive.
    Nice write up sister….you’ve flogged guys with your ink but don’t forget to do the same with your fellow ladies.

  53. My comment is dat the gal is very stupid and senseless.. Any man dat beats the wife, fiance,sister,mother or even a lady is not worthy to be man and infact the man is a coward….so the lady should “USE HER HEAD” and also know dat for the man to be using her as punching bag means the man is seeing her as an animal… So she should run for her dear life else the next he might kill her…..thank you Prof. Engr. Chiagozie a.k.a izgozzy has spoken…

  54. Well said and narrative. We must understand the difference between emotion & love. Often time we get into untimely relationship that is not godly. Whatever that is not timely is not godly. Love acts on time and season. When u rush to love then, what u experience is frustration. (Ecc. 3 v1 and v8) . Am sure emotion must have led her to this. Pls, be patient to love, don’t mistake emotion to love. Even the devil have that too. But, understand the fact that God is the true love and if it’s God, love must be timely. Wait patiently for it. I hope u Understand.

  55. Hmm! True talk sister but I don’t know why ladies don’t like walking out of such relationships they will be saying I love him but love is not wicked it is pure! That was how one man in the next building in my area will beat his wife, he did it to the extent that the wife had Two miscarriages, the wife walked out of the marriage atlast cuz she couldnt bear it again. God will lead us right.

  56. We must be kindred spirit. This same message kept creeping into my mind all through the weekend up till now. I started to write a post on it but I have not gotten round to finish it. I agree with you and I think we should all learn to show kindness and love irrespective of age or class.

    I saw the video the other day on your IG page and I had goosebumps.

  57. Wow!!! Isn’t this a wonderful and insightful post! Totally relatable. And I agree totally. We shouldn’t trivialize others pains simply because we walked through ours easily.

  58. I love make up o but excessive make up is a no no for me. And it should not be an everyday thing. These days sef, sitting before the mirror to plaster has suddenly become work much more washing it off. So salute to those who do everyday!

  59. 2016 was indeed a great year for me tho there were hard times. it was a year of breakthrough for me as an entrepreneur, I registered my business, I handled one big job like that gave me more recognition at the peak of the year. My business became an household name and I was also more financially dependent on my own in 2016. The great news for 2017 is that I will be getting married by God’s grace #excited and God will bless me with more clients.

  60. Thanks you so much my lovely boss. This is a encourage and nice quote. Good poem and writer. God will continue more knowledge and understanding ijn. Thanks ma. Complement of Season.

  61. Hmmm,a first timer…. Well,I do think marriage is worth it and a beautiful experience if u are with right one for you..Yeah,its work,work,work,work and work….Nice write up

  62. I experienced mine when I went to a friend’s hostel to say ” hi” and met another friend of hers there ,along the line I got talking with my friend’s friend and somehow I asked her for permission to go through her pictures. She was like don’t look at it finish and say “you know my Bobo o or you know a girl he’s seeing ” I laughed and was like haba. I was scrolling through the pictures and then I stumbled on my cousin’s face,I had to ask ‘how did you know Debo’ and she was like he’s going to be the best man on her wedding because Debo,my cousin is her fiancé ‘s best friend…she had to call my cousin to confirm cos she was really shocked.

  63. Ahahahahahahaha, humans tho.

    On my part, whenever I see someone I know, even when I cannot recollect where I know you or we don’t used to talk back then I will still famz. And some will still go on and snub, when they do that I just keep on moving…

  64. I experienced the small world phenomenon over the weekend too at the Lagos Airport. The person that attended to me at the check in point saw my surname which was same as his and we began talking. Fortunately, he knows my dad well and used to work with my uncle. We were even from the same LGA. Thank God I wasn’t rude to him before we got talking out of frustration!

  65. Mine is just a little different because it’s a Church opposite my house and one behind my house.These churxhes have a programme every blessed day .I’m yet to understand the logic behind putting a speaker outside the church and it’s not like they have a large congregation.Not to mock them,they have about 20 members even on a Sunday.Well,I’m used to it already cos I even sing along sometimes .

  66. At some point, I had a huge Thought of changing my church due to some strategic analysis I did, which didn’t resonate with my inner man.
    I am overwhelmed by this write-up I’m reading which further explain why and what caused those thoughts I had..

    Blessings

  67. This got me laughing a lot “They for kuku carry trumpet join sef”
    Very engaging… Love the article
    More greese to your elbow.
    God bless

  68. Lovely write up there. I’m also in your shoes and funny enough, the revivalists don’t even live in the same house with us,they live in the next compound but once they start at say 12 or 1,no need to ‘look’ for sleep again o until they finish their vigil. May God help us.

  69. Yours is even better, when I lost my phone last year, the guy that took the phone kept picking my calls, he was the one that told me where I lost the phone(inside the banking hall)and even promised to return the phone to me. He told me I called him not up to 20minutes he took the phone. So I was very happy I will soon get my phone back, but till today I never set my eyes on my phone again, he used my sim for 3 days before changing it. Just take heart madam, you will get over it within few weeks

  70. Baby sissy so sorry for the losses. God ll replenish in hundred fold. Personally i use dropbox synced to my phone n laptop so anything i do automatically backs up there and i can access it on my laptop or whereever i log into my dropbox. It is well sweetie. My love to my adorable godson

  71. Hmmmmm. It was so painful and hurt. However, welll.All the same, will still thank God. All I believe that the allmighty God will favour in all ways in jesus name
    Be brave and hope. Big statement I will made to u is IT IS WELL. Thanks

    Regards Ma…..

  72. That so obviously. In the church today,defiantly people are going to church to charge their phone and other appliance. they didn’t go to church to serve God. In other way is not their fault. Don’t blame them .it is lack of electricity in this country presently.. will Ave to summon on minister of power to find solution in this country. Thanks. From cso quotes…..

  73. Sometimes church leaders and members practice sentiment which is not suppose to be….But looking unto Jesus is the most important thing, men will only distract from serving the Lord. Nice write sis.

  74. hi,i started reading from here though i still enjoyed it,am gonna search for the preluding *chapters* before i answer the question so i can know Elo’s thought process and who he is.off to read them.

  75. Nice. I have actually been in such situations severally. …infact at some point I thought I wasn’t pretty enough for them to “remember” we went to school together. One day oh…at the mall…that’s how this chic who even used to be dark back in school and aff now turn white pretended not to know me. I even managed to greet as a good girl. She snubbed. I ignored and continued to window shop with my husband. Fast forward into shoprite…she was infront of us on the queue and bam! POS no work. And aunty didn’t have cash in hand. We had to pay for her bread. That’s when she remembered “you were Lydia’s neighbor in Block D yea?” i just smiled and said goodbye. I blamed the forgetfulness on bleaching cream though…but as you don talk say na forming, i will leave it at that….

    1. Not pretty enough? Hia! That’s a lie from the pit of hell! I wonder what the big deal is, just say hi and move-on nobody asked them to hug and blow kisses. Just don’t waka pass as if you don’t know someone…it’s not nice.
      Thanks for reading.

  76. Nice write up. Most times you walk up to people to say “hi remember me” they start to form with fake accent. So for me if we were not really close or had a close contact or relationship, I would rather just walk away but if I see that the person is also looking at me to place my face or where we have met I will walk up to the person and introduce myself.

  77. you are so on point dear…I had to talk to myself that I was’t in the church cos of people, but for Christ.

  78. My dear….on days like that, I just sign deeply and I sleep!

    But if you ask any entrepreneur, having the right people is always a good motivation to press on and keep the faith alive. Thank God for good friends.

    You once had the words I needed on such days even though you may not remember. You had the words. And I am grateful.

    We don’t look like what we’ve been through and the journey is on and destination is ahead

  79. Tolu! Yaay. Funny enough I was having this conversation with some people some days ago. And I agree with u. Marriage is work. If you’re not ready don’t do, if u can’t manage or make sacrifices don’t do. Not everyone is cut out for it.

  80. But it wasn’t d lady’s fault now, she only wanted to help and unfortunately, it turned out that way.why did he forget too? And realistically speaking, d lady might even drive back to where he dropped him just to look for him.
    Well done Tolu….

  81. Hello Mrs, welcome back to ori eto…. Thanks for the som…som . I have learnt that I should always look before I leap so that I won’t be a victim. There are handsome thieves too. Hmn…….I feel for Atanda anyway. What can u do to help him?

  82. wow!!! I was actually thinking its one of those Old jist and story, was feeling reluctant to browse through not until I red it half way and was captivated by d story. keep it up Tolu queen, d sky is ur beginning.

    How come d beautiful thief knew Atanda was carrying an huge of money that she chose to give only Atanda a life but nobody else???

    The brown envelope was suppose to b held by Atanda, did he drop it at d back seat or something??? wot an expensive drama …

    1. Loool…Atoo Idowu the rest shd be left for imagination but to answer ur questions let me share mine.

      How come the beautiful thief knew he was with money, an experienced lady thief like her must have watched him enter the bank and come out with a big brown envelope…she gave only him a lift to make it easy to have conversations with him alone.

      Atanda was holding the said envelope however at some point he was very relaxed and he kept it on her glove compartment. When he alighted her smile and warm gestures got him spell bound and that’s how he forgot the brown envelope.

      I hope this adds a little more flavour and answers your questions.

      Thank you all for reading.

  83. That’s a good one but am so confused here . What if ur friend is in a relationship already but still loves u? Waiting for ur reply ma.

  84. It’s seriously a while I have been able to read your ever real and inspiring words. More Grace oooo. Hope you won’t do run-away again sha Semi-bday mate. It’s true these things happen in our days but I hope this article will go a long way to challenge our brethren cum “friends” to realize that NO MATTER THE YOUR HEIGHT IN LIFE, YOU MIGHT NEED THE SEEMINGLY MINUTE OF ALL TOMORROW. Nice one, thanks

    1. trust me it did….i couldn’t believe my eyes. i just kept mute as i watched the silent drama coz thru it all no one said a word…the eyes did the talking. it is well oooo

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  86. Lmao …. I can’t stop laffing… But I’m very happy u know women are drama queens *eyes rolling* and kudos to kemi.. After she found out she was guilty she kept quiet. Some women wud av continued.. But this is a really interesting piece I av to say… #TeamLQUEEN

  87. hi, I read n enjoy all ur writings. I may nt respond (I tink av made it an habit not to comment on any post on social media) but I will change. I av missed ur articles since dere is no time n I understand its nt easy to hustle in naija.God strengthen u bt I will suggest Fridays so u can av d weekend to urself n av quality rest for d week ahead.

  88. lqueen the issue of Nigeria Present Situation is a matter of the heart honestly the killings and bombings going on know has reached a boiling point how i wish they can come for dialogue and how i wish they did not kill does people that attempted entering the villa without interrogation how i wish they did not kill mohammed yusuf early may be he would have reveal more and i also wish the fighting and killing of innocent people should stop and wish people prayers change the wicked mind and let them bring there self to order. and let their be peaceful Nigeria

  89. Tanx Sweety, U̶̲̥̅̊ just made my day. Even if I didn’t give out a gift neither did I receive one but have learnt from this story . Thanks dear.

  90. Hi queenD
    First of All Sorry For The Lost Of Ur Aunt May Her Soul RIP
    Knw
    CCT is Grt Ingridients For a Good Relationship hope We Get To Use It Before Marriage An Even in Marriage Kos a Happy hrt Can Help in Impacting Positively in Lyf Of Many people inspirationaly Without You Even knowing And That Can Bring Change For the Society Way of Thinking Cause of Your Lead Of leaving By Example.That’s All I can Say

  91. Ahhh!!!!! I’ve been waiting 4 dis topic. This is a very hard thing to think about…. I’m also AS so I know I av to be careful and all. Buh the decision is strictly on the faith of the couple…. My G-parents are both AS and they gave birth to 7 children. And jus one SS. May his soul RIP. If its a couple that can’t take chances they shouldn’t go ahead…. Buh f dey believe all will be well they can go ahead

  92. Hi
    Tolu Nys Topic but really dis is just about choice yet again because how will u knw if u go out you will Give Birth You See is a Tyng of Gamble So U need to be sure who has problem Before Going to any decision Bcos the devil U knw is Better than the Angel you don’t know So if U ar Bored and want kids You Can adopt I knw is not same as yos but it can reduce the bored feeling then you can wait for God time that’s my view So don’t use tired with a relationship and blame it On Because I need a Child And I can’t Get hia so Am out

  93. Gud day L’Queen. I most comment ur effort in dis wonderful $ educating write up.this issue of genotype is realy a threat 2 most families [email protected] has fallen victim ignorantly. The truth remains from the biological point of view,when both parents are carriers of sickle cell aneamia (AS) just as mentioned in ur write up above, is not medically adviced 4 them 2 settle down in order 2 prevent themselves from the day 2 day crisis. WHY? Bcos if they happen 2 born 4 children 4 instance: 2 of those children will be carriers of sickle cell AS as a result of inheritace from both parent:1 will be complete sickler SS and other 1 will be normal (AA). So u can begin c the whole lot of stress N crisis [email protected] dey wil undergo.

  94. Good writeup QueenD
    Yes Is very Important For 2knw the Genotype cause this is more dangerous than HIV to me So u should both Understand the condition Before agreement because Your Children will be in pain and that you wouldn’t want 2 see but if you choose the unconditional love then you have Adopt children that’s only best option then agree on no biological children

  95. Well, I would also advice not going on with the relationship if ur genotype does not blend.ITS NOT VERY EASY THO!!!

  96. Yaaay!!!!! DEC!!!! My month!!! Tolu nice one as usual. Hope I’m in ur gift list sha… Wishin u a prosperous month ahead…

  97. Nys wat a Good One is a food for Tought hope All the rules will b implemented by Both peeps an love 2apprciate situations an b truthful 2 seld wen dere life changes may b frm bad to good finicial status kos dat change is the worst

  98. Lovely writeup L’Queen. Meeting ur loved one(s) “halfway” seems like a very important tin to do in a relationship. As Temi said above,some men dnt find it easy to be honest when low on cash. Dats becos,its NOT easy! I’m a guy,and I knw how hard it is to let ur loved one know dat ur broke. U can never know what d outcome wud be. D girl can react,by deciding to leave U (as most girls r all about d money). Bsyds,I dnt think d lady shud wait until her man is broke b4 she begins to pay 4 stuff. She should offer to pay once in a while! Dis would make her lover appreciate her evn more. Trust me on dat. Hav a lovely week. 🙂

    1. yea true….but as a guy you should understand the kind of woman you have. if she’s someone who will stick with you all the way then you have no reason to hide such things from her.

  99. Hello dear!
    I personally have a problem with displaying the pictures of lovers and spouses on social networks, execpt in cases where its unavoidable (weddings, engagements). Not only the pictures but also PMs that suggest the current state of the relationship. I see it as immature and frivolous. And ofcourse we know its detrimental to the health and success of that relationship.

    Now to ur question: I can’t state a particular time that is appropriate to ‘show off’ ur spouse, but I’ll say it depends on the seriousnes of the relationship. Hope you know that meeting family and friends does not guarantee the success of the relationship. If putting up pictures is so important to both couple, then it should be limited and controlled.

    Have a blessed week!

  100. Nice writeup L’Queen. I think D issue of advertising one’s “boo” on social apps is mostly done by girls. Some guys do it,but mabe like once in a blue moon. Derz noffn wrong wit it,but it should hav its limit. I don’t think a person should put stuff about their private lives on a social medium. Its not right. D lady on ur bbm dat U talked about…Nawa to am oo! Jus over a week,and shez puttin d guy asif deyre married?! *smh*. We’re cool now yh? Hav a lovely week. ;;) :* 😀

  101. Left to me,I wdnt…buh if I av to,I guess afta a year is fyn by me.. He cd cm up once in a while on ma dp as any friend could

  102. Tanx dear for this eye opener. Many people are addicted to sugary tins( yvonne inclusive). We will change according to ur advice. Tanx

  103. I have not seen anything that discusses age or cancer being a variable in
    any respect. This might be because the studies
    didn’t account for this, or that it wasn’t a variable that will make a difference.
    In either case I hope you will get those 25 pounds off!

  104. I have not seen anything that discusses age or cancer being a variable in
    any respect. This might be because the studies
    didn’t account for this, or that it wasn’t a variable that will make a difference.
    In either case I hope you will get those 25 pounds off!

  105. Don’t overpromise anyone and don’t undeliver……hmmm. Mum B’queen, uve said it all. Thanks for this piece

  106. Nice writeup L’Queen. For me,age is a factor. Depending on how U look @ it. I wouldn’t wantu date/marry a lady older than me. That would giv her a sense of supremacy over me. I’d rather date/marry sm1 my age or younger than me.

  107. Haba!!! Belloteeh….sure u wrote dis in annoyance n as such, u didn’t bother editing it…. Its aiit….we’d use our brains to interprete it….anyways,back to d main ish of d day, age isn’t d main thing buh maturity….buh age matters when d difference is obvious even on d man’s face….u can av a guy of 40yrs looking cuter Dan a 25yrs……then religion also matters like Moslems now can marry alhaji who has many wives already buh a Christian isn’t allowed to be a second wife so d man would av married at an early age except for exceptions…..

  108. Hello D queen of Divas Age they say Is just a Number But only the wise has d right 2 say so kos I hv seen a friend who;s Father Brought His wife To his wife and she was Told that he is Her Uncle she was also Told so. dats the 2nd wife.So The Husband she was just their as in her uncle House But she calls him daddy kos he has children of her Age so she called Him daddy and the wife mother she was Tought how to cook and how to have a Good moral for preparation of marriage when she was of Age the husband know confessed he Is not her uncle he is her husband and they have Already developed a loving relationship in the house for father and Daughter An Mother and Daughter But that shaked the 1st wife when she understood The Truth so she left But her attitude The way she Trained The 2nd wife she Also trained the children well so ThankGod There is no feud Between children in the House But knw the 1st wife is Bak an leaving with Mutual respect 4 each other.Don’t knw why He Did what He Did But 2 Me Is a Good vision And a way of Teaching Moral and Respecting Human Age And Also Fulfiling Heart Desire hmmm

  109. Hello Queen of D Diva I no Am running to Late to Contribute Dats Kos My Contribution was Held up @ Go Slow Anyway Am Here I love The write up Is Enlightening Kos u see Jealousy In a Relationship Most Definately Come But It Has 2 Have Limit That’s When Trust Comes In So U See Am Not Saying One Should Trust Blindy Know The Character Of The person U ar In a Relationship And with the level of Affection Already Establish With Your Partner You Can Call When Your Jealousy Intuition Kicks Hi Honey How ar u just Missing you So what are You Upto? He or She Will Definately Tell Then Finish With An I Love You. From The Responce You Shall Detect. That’s (one). The other If It Is a Physical Flirting Haba Guy or Lady You Should know Since every Thing Is Happening In Your Face That Means There Is No Skeleton in The Closet Is Just Social Civilazation So They Say But If It Passes Some Certain Limit You Can Talk To your Partner in Private Later And Raise your Yellow Cards So As To Make Amendment But If Changes Is Not Made Don’t Wait Raise The Red Flag Ok If you are Married. With Then Set Boundary So As you will Be Good Leaders To Your Kids.like me I heard A Girl Dat I left Kos she Is Feeling my jealosy is Low And It Aint so And I realy Do Care Is just that Am a Step Ahead of Her I do know in The Social Civilazation of Relation Am not Saying Am Cassanova But it Grew To she Seem Jealous of My Siblings And My Family People And Mind You we Aint Married So You I Tried Making Her See My Vision But No Way So God Vindicate me From Her kos her Attitude Drove me Away My Family Also made it Clear 2 me Dat she Aint Miss Rite know That We Ar Not Together I know see the Truth clearly She Is Formbling To find My pair I Wish her the Best But I Told her I love her But her Attitude I hate so she say we Should be Friends I Did But Still on Still She Started Crossing Her Friend Boundry OMG I my Mad just help me see wahala She Deleted me in her contact Someone That Is Telling me To Be Civilised and let’s Be friends even if we are not in a Relationship no more …. Na wa wo when insanity meets sanity.hmmm

  110. Hello Queen of D Diva I no Am running to Late to Contribute Dats Kos My Contribution was Held up @ Go Slow Anyway Am Here I love The write up Is Enlightening Kos u see Jealousy In a Relationship Most Definately Come But It Has 2 Have Limit That’s When Trust Comes In So U See Am Not Saying One Should Trust Blindy Know The Character Of The person U ar In a Relationship And with the level of Affection Already Establish With Your Partner You Can Call When Your Jealousy Intuition Kicks Hi Honey How ar u just Missing you So what are You Upto? He or She Will Definately Tell Then Finish With An I Love You. From The Responce You Shall Detect. That’s (one). The other If It Is a Physical Flirting Haba Guy or Lady You Should know Since every Thing Is Happening In Your Face That Means There Is No Skeleton in The Closet Is Just Social Civilazation So They Say But If It Passes Some Certain Limit You Can Talk To your Partner in Private Later And Raise your Yellow Cards So As To Make Amendment But If Changes Is Not Made Don’t Wait Raise The Red Flag Ok If you are Married. With Then Set Boundary So As you will Be Good Leaders To Your Kids.like me I heard A Girl Dat I left Kos she Is Feeling my jealosy is Low And It Aint so And I realy Do Care Is just that Am a Step Ahead of Her I do know in The Social Civilazation of Relation Am not Saying Am Cassanova But it Grew To she Seem Jealous of My Siblings And My Family People And Mind You we Aint Married So You I Tried Making Her See My Vision But No Way So God Vindicate me From Her kos her Attitude Drove me Away My Family Also made it Clear 2 me Dat she Aint Miss Rite know That We Ar Not Together I know see the Truth clearly She Is Formbling To find My pair I Wish her the Best But I Told her I love her But her Attitude I hate so she say we Should be Friends I Did But Still on Still She Started Crossing Her Friend Boundry OMG I my Mad just help me see wahala She Deleted me in her contact Someone That Is Telling me To Be Civilised and let’s Be friends even if we are not in a Relationship no more …. Na wa wo when insanity meets sanity.hmmm

  111. Tanx for this piece, God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ dear. Its quite unfortunate dat guys of nowadays are self- centred,’though not all but some av seen and heard of, all they want Ȋ̝̊̅§ ready made. They re not ready to encourage nor compliment their partner. Baby, wiv this piece liberation Ȋ̝̊̅§ inevitable…Remember, change Ȋ̝̊̅§ constant K…lol

  112. Hmmmm… Tolu is dis a personal experience?…… Love is an investment… Investment is d perfect word to use because like in a real investment its wat u put in d investment dat it will bring out. So if u invest positively in sum1 u love u guys would av a wonderful life together 😀

  113. Jealousy hmmm. As you said tolu its actually a good thing wen u notice ur partner is jealous of one of your friends it makes u feel special and attractive again! But this doesn’t mean it should me overdone sha… The key to solving jealousy issues is just understanding. 😀 tolu nice one again keep it up

  114. Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru this piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  115. Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru ur piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  116. Tanx to our love doc, i just had time to read tru ur piece….To me, Jealousy Ȋ̝̊̅§ not always necessary cause it could lead to High BP….better still understanding and patience Ȋ̝̊̅§ important in evry relationship..lol

  117. Great work,L’queen.. Feels strange calling Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ dat cos Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ were M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ school mom Ǻήƌ̲̣̣̣̥ it was always snr Tolu. ℓ☺ℓ. Thumbs up :*

  118. Lovely write-up once again. I think jealousy is very neccessary in a relationship. I’m can be VERY jealous,but not up to d psychopatic/die-hard jealousy thing…dats just crazy as U said. @Tope, Ur comment is right,nd I like ur point.

  119. Lovely write-up once again. I think jealousy is very neccessary in a relationship. I’m can be VERY jealous,but not up to d psychopatic/die-hard jealousy thing…dats just crazy as U said. @Tope, Ur comment is right,nd I like ur point.

  120. Really nice work, love wat your doin…about jealously, illd really love to comment on it cos v had several experiences wiv diff “over jealous ladies”..i recently had a relshp go bad all in d name of jealousy. Like u said, jealously is a good thing in a rel/shp buh it becomes a prob wen it leads to irrational acts. In dis particular relship of myn, dis girl was so jealous dat using a lady as DP of my BBM profile was not allowd. She goes thru all ma chats, fone calls, msgs, n facebook pages. I also cudnt hav ladies arnd @ all..dis made me feel so conered n unfree that i was lookn 4 a way out. The funniest part of it was that i neva even tot of cheatin on her cos i really liked her.. Wah m trying to draw out from this is dah in a relshp, what u fink may not be so. U can ask, nd solve matters maturely, cos u may end up loosing what ur fighting for.

  121. Really nice work, love wat your doin…about jealously, illd really love to comment on it cos v had several experiences wiv diff “over jealous ladies”..i recently had a relshp go bad all in d name of jealousy. Like u said, jealously is a good thing in a rel/shp buh it becomes a prob wen it leads to irrational acts. In dis particular relship of myn, dis girl was so jealous dat using a lady as DP of my BBM profile was not allowd. She goes thru all ma chats, fone calls, msgs, n facebook pages. I also cudnt hav ladies arnd @ all..dis made me feel so conered n unfree that i was lookn 4 a way out. The funniest part of it was that i neva even tot of cheatin on her cos i really liked her.. Wah m trying to draw out from this is dah in a relshp, what u fink may not be so. U can ask, nd solve matters maturely, cos u may end up loosing what ur fighting for.

  122. Thank u so much for all dearie….I’ve always known u’d be a great love talker those days when u’d sit on d chair in d room,face d mirror n talk like u were live on stage or on frank edoho’s hot sit…lol…. All we need is God’s help…. R goin places dear….I just updated maself pn all d Monday mornin somthing somethingzzzzzzzzz….. Miss u darling

  123. Thank u so much for all dearie….I’ve always known u’d be a great love talker those days when u’d sit on d chair in d room,face d mirror n talk like u were live on stage or on frank edoho’s hot sit…lol…. All we need is God’s help…. R goin places dear….I just updated maself pn all d Monday mornin somthing somethingzzzzzzzzz….. Miss u darling

  124. Am happy U̶̲̥̅̊ made it to this month…Thank Jesus. My dear its easier said than done….but I know that God will always help us to take decisions on how to move on and the grace to open right doors will be given to us…tanx for this piece. HNM

  125. Am happy U̶̲̥̅̊ made it to this month…Thank Jesus. My dear its easier said than done….but I know that God will always help us to take decisions on how to move on and the grace to open right doors will be given to us…tanx for this piece. HNM

  126. I love wedings with beautiful long train, always colourful, but seriously with the rate at which pple divorced this days, guess couples should just make it simple if they are going to seperate the next day, cos I can’t imagine paying as high as 20k for bridesmaid clothing and the nextday, the couples r divorced, abeg Make them come take their cloth, make them refund my money.

  127. Honestly, ive seen a train of 16 ladies, 16 guys, to me its just not it @all.
    Remembered when my elder sis just got married & was having issues with the hubby, when she came with the hubby complaining, my dad just said “First of all Introduction”, we whr like meaning? Then he said, the money he spent from their Introduction to Wedding should be refunded first before he grants them audience. You know what, they left immediately and till date ive not heard of any issues between them.
    D prices for all these Aso ebi, bridal stuffs etc should be affordable cos the buyers re actually doing the couples favour by beautifying their day.
    Its all about the Marriage, not the Wedding oo’h!!!

  128. Honestly, ive seen a train of 16 ladies, 16 guys, to me its just not it @all.
    Remembered when my elder sis just got married & was having issues with the hubby, when she came with the hubby complaining, my dad just said “First of all Introduction”, we whr like meaning? Then he said, the money he spent from their Introduction to Wedding should be refunded first before he grants them audience. You know what, they left immediately and till date ive not heard of any issues between them.
    D prices for all these Aso ebi, bridal stuffs etc should be affordable cos the buyers re actually doing the couples favour by beautifying their day.
    Its all about the Marriage, not the Wedding oo’h!!!

  129. Well done, the advantages of Social media is as much as its disadvantages, it is better to use it wisely.

  130. Well done, the advantages of Social media is as much as its disadvantages, it is better to use it wisely.

  131. wat a 9c write up.social media is actually gud 4 sm1 lyk me am at gambia my fiance is in 9ja.if nt 4 it too much money wld av gone on crdt.make a gud use of it and nt d oda way round. Keep it up.much luv

  132. That Ȋ̝̊̅§ the gospel truth abt social media.its got advantages & disadvantages…..God will help us….”Lol..

  133. lol…i can imagine all you went through because i also went through a similar experience as yours. this was even a person i had known since primary school. we also attended the same university. he went for masters in uk immediately while i went for nysc. one day at shoprite i saw the young man and he started to blow grammar for me oh! it wasnt funny, barely two years in uk and your tongue is already twisting…may God help us oh…he tried so hard to impress me by referring consistently on the fact that he just gt back from uk. i put him in a tight corner when i started to converse in yoruba, i knew his weakness and he fell for it,,,before he knew it, his accent disappeared and reappeared whenever became conscious of his speech. you see, tolu, the problem with Africans generally is inferiority complex and so we see other countries as a big deal and want to copy everythn including their language and manner of speech. we have never for once sat down to ask if they would also admire our language and want to speak like us, or do they still see us as ugly, hungry, primitive barbarians?

  134. lol…i can imagine all you went through because i also went through a similar experience as yours. this was even a person i had known since primary school. we also attended the same university. he went for masters in uk immediately while i went for nysc. one day at shoprite i saw the young man and he started to blow grammar for me oh! it wasnt funny, barely two years in uk and your tongue is already twisting…may God help us oh…he tried so hard to impress me by referring consistently on the fact that he just gt back from uk. i put him in a tight corner when i started to converse in yoruba, i knew his weakness and he fell for it,,,before he knew it, his accent disappeared and reappeared whenever became conscious of his speech. you see, tolu, the problem with Africans generally is inferiority complex and so we see other countries as a big deal and want to copy everythn including their language and manner of speech. we have never for once sat down to ask if they would also admire our language and want to speak like us, or do they still see us as ugly, hungry, primitive barbarians?

  135. I can’t just contain it wen guys try to form what they re not. As a being, why not come out straight, speak out what U̶̲̥̅̊ av and U̶̲̥̅̊ stand to be corrected if need be……Be urself always and spare us the bomb(or U̶̲̥̅̊ be boko haram)..LOL.
    Ore mi tanx for this piece jare ….I think my accent Ȋ̝̊̅§ OWOISH….laughing

  136. I can’t just contain it wen guys try to form what they re not. As a being, why not come out straight, speak out what U̶̲̥̅̊ av and U̶̲̥̅̊ stand to be corrected if need be……Be urself always and spare us the bomb(or U̶̲̥̅̊ be boko haram)..LOL.
    Ore mi tanx for this piece jare ….I think my accent Ȋ̝̊̅§ OWOISH….laughing

  137. ȋ̝̊̅̄ also had one wen ȋ̝̊̅̄ was in primary skul den. He goes by the name Segun. The filins frm the crush was mutual den, infact dere was a day ȋ̝̊̅̄ sat on his lap,we were acting husband and wife in the class and our class teacher, Mr Sam, caught us. Dat was the last day ȋ̝̊̅̄ ever sat close to Segun truout primary skul. But the funniest tin was dat we met again lik 9yrs later and my primary skul crush wanted to continue frm where we stopped, but ȋ̝̊̅̄ told him dat it doesn’t work dat way…..so funny

  138. ȋ̝̊̅̄ also had one wen ȋ̝̊̅̄ was in primary skul den. He goes by the name Segun. The filins frm the crush was mutual den, infact dere was a day ȋ̝̊̅̄ sat on his lap,we were acting husband and wife in the class and our class teacher, Mr Sam, caught us. Dat was the last day ȋ̝̊̅̄ ever sat close to Segun truout primary skul. But the funniest tin was dat we met again lik 9yrs later and my primary skul crush wanted to continue frm where we stopped, but ȋ̝̊̅̄ told him dat it doesn’t work dat way…..so funny

  139. Hmmm child Hood crush I Did had a crush But Distance separated us and we Met Again we Had NoThing. In common Any Longer Fareeda now happily Married Doh we met when she was Still single I never liked her kos if I knew she was a Complete Capitalist den we were At p School I Wouldn’t Have There I learned Beauty is Not a Face But At heart But I Do know that she is Married And reaping the Atrributes of her capitalism hmmm if understand me Any way Boys And Girls Have Fun enjoy while it last

  140. Hmmm child Hood crush I Did had a crush But Distance separated us and we Met Again we Had NoThing. In common Any Longer Fareeda now happily Married Doh we met when she was Still single I never liked her kos if I knew she was a Complete Capitalist den we were At p School I Wouldn’t Have There I learned Beauty is Not a Face But At heart But I Do know that she is Married And reaping the Atrributes of her capitalism hmmm if understand me Any way Boys And Girls Have Fun enjoy while it last

  141. Hmm…Jobi abi?? Issokay! Primary schl crush…Ion think I had any. All dem gurls where crushing on me.(As a bad guy) 😉 I had two Childhood crushes tho…Shalewa and Temiloluwa…Nice girls. Wuld luv to see ’em again. Nice post ma’am. 😀

  142. Hmm…Jobi abi?? Issokay! Primary schl crush…Ion think I had any. All dem gurls where crushing on me.(As a bad guy) 😉 I had two Childhood crushes tho…Shalewa and Temiloluwa…Nice girls. Wuld luv to see ’em again. Nice post ma’am. 😀

  143. Hmmm…Nice one dear. Work shudn’t take u away from ur loved ones and most especially,ur spouse. Make them feel LOVED!

  144. Dis is quite real…cos it did happen 2 me when I was in pre-degree,@ 1st thought I had found a school daddy jst like u said nd l8r realized all wat he wanted 4rm me was 2 ve sex wif me,so I took 2 my heels.he promised me heaven nd earth such as high grades,money nd all sort.I stood my ground dat such isn’t my way.

  145. Hello dearie, au re U̶̲̥̅̊? Tanx for this piece o. Abeg this Ȋ̝̊̅§ happening everywhere. Married men should learn to cleave to their wives and their wives only. It has happened to me too but tanx to God am free from their disturbance. My dear U̶̲̥̅̊ ve done well…..Oghadinma

  146. Nothing should take the place of physical presence and attention. Work will go, business may crumble, friends may leave, but the home will be there; ile ni abo isimi oko, that is the last resort of every person, and the loved ones that we have there shouldn’t be treated with light fingers.

  147. There are certain xteristics dat we want in our future patner,but atyms,it turns out dat we cant get it all.4 instance,if a lady wants a tall,dark, handsome,caring,rich,confident and outspoken guy.There is a possibility dat she wnt get all ds in one person.She myt find a tall,dark,handsome,rich bt not caring,nt outspoken.Nd then meet a guy dat is not handsome,nt as well built as she expects bt caring,confident,wil go 2 any length to make her api.In ds case,she wil av 2 settle 4 d not so handsome guy if she is wise enuf.In short,d truth is dat we can neva get all d qualities dat we dream of getn in our mr nd mrs ryt in one person.So d best tn is 2 pray 2 God 4 him 2 choose 4 us nd luk beyond physical beauty,his choice is d perfect choice 4 us,bt dat doesnt mean such persn wil b perfect cos no1 is perfect.

  148. true but not a welcome idea by many you see my dear “cash” is trying to take over love this day. and even we men now believe we have to make that cash before a girl will love me and that is why if a rich boy see a beautiful girl going out with a poor boy, he approach the girl as-if no one is with her thinking his money can take the girl from the poor man AND AT MUST TIME IT WORK. the girl will start telling some stories and before you know she have left you for that rich one. NOW whom is at fault the
    .RICH BOY OR THE GIRL?

  149. true but not a welcome idea by many you see my dear “cash” is trying to take over love this day. and even we men now believe we have to make that cash before a girl will love me and that is why if a rich boy see a beautiful girl going out with a poor boy, he approach the girl as-if no one is with her thinking his money can take the girl from the poor man AND AT MUST TIME IT WORK. the girl will start telling some stories and before you know she have left you for that rich one. NOW whom is at fault the
    .RICH BOY OR THE GIRL?

  150. Interesting piece as usual….u no dey fall my hand *winks* …..yeah abt dis mata,hmmmmm…I believe maturity changes alot of tins oh. lots of ‘expectations’ we all had abt who we wanna settle dwn with (TDandH) begin to lose importance and we all soon realise dt love,morals and values should be d priority.most females nid 2 reevaluate deir ‘check list’ sharp sharp cz its rily shallow.

  151. tolu! well done. wonderful piece. many of these “christian sisters” chase their God-given men away because they often misinterpret the bible and the definitions of holiness a long side other characteristics described in the bible. i personally have a problem with dressing but like you said, because of doctrinal values and cores, i wnt dwell much on it. a woman i know got married days ago in her late forties. not that shes not beautiful, intelligent or hardworking, as a matter of fact, she is all and more but her shoulder pads can be thick for Africa and her skirts can sweep lagos market clean. c’mon which brother in dis time and age wants to marry a woman in costumes? no one is asking them to compromise, but be a chick for christ! dont chase them brovas away! daddy and mummy might still need you around the house, but it will get to a stage where you will be a burden to them at age 30…ejo! biko! cut dese brothers some slack….much love

  152. Its been a long time on dis blog, hope I didn’t miss much,kudos to u tolu, u got Me reeling with laughter there, “Biko! Don’t drive away your God-ordained brother oh! To avoid MFM tinz years later.” abi o tell them, them go say na one old woman they do them, not knowing that they caused it, “smile is d best assesory”

  153. Tolulope,am so glad to av you as friend. Tanx so much for this eye opener. Av learnt a lot……Nagode

  154. Tolulope,am so glad to av you as friend. Tanx so much for this eye opener. Av learnt a lot……Nagode

  155. Its like you learn my mind! You appear to understand a lot approximately this, like you wrote the e book in it or something. I believe that you can do with some % to force the message house a little bit, however instead of that, this is great blog. An excellent read. I’ll definitely be back. strona firmowa

  156. LOL 😀 …. Assif you know what we are going thru…. All our christian sisters be doing us wayo….. U jis sad the truth, hope all my christian sisters can read this

  157. LOL 😀 …. Assif you know what we are going thru…. All our christian sisters be doing us wayo….. U jis sad the truth, hope all my christian sisters can read this

  158. My sister,U couldn’t have writen dis any better. Now,you see what most of us (guys) go thru with dese “christian sistaz” 8-| . I hope u pple will change. Hav a nice week. 😀

  159. wow nice write up. Sumtyn similar hapnd to me last year. Nt dat i wanted to keep d bro waitin bt i dnt wanna say no, buh he waited for 9gud months! Tank God now we r gud to go.

    1. 9 f*cking months! Damn… You must be the only option for the poor guy. I trust myself sha, while awaiting ur response, I’m already on plan B, even plan C. No time.

  160. wow nice write up. Sumtyn similar hapnd to me last year. Nt dat i wanted to keep d bro waitin bt i dnt wanna say no, buh he waited for 9gud months! Tank God now we r gud to go.

    1. 9 f*cking months! Damn… You must be the only option for the poor guy. I trust myself sha, while awaiting ur response, I’m already on plan B, even plan C. No time.

  161. ehn ehn @damifadugba so you turned me down because of this haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa verily verily i say unto you am a changed person now courtesy this writeup so Sister Dammy sorry Babe can we pick up where we left off
    Seriously, this write up is on point

  162. ehn ehn @damifadugba so you turned me down because of this haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa verily verily i say unto you am a changed person now courtesy this writeup so Sister Dammy sorry Babe can we pick up where we left off
    Seriously, this write up is on point

  163. sis tolu, u v spoken wel bt i partly agree wt u on som of ur points. Lets nt forget rom8v14 cos the Spirit searcheth al truth. I think the ladies should b more sincere while in search of love especially havin noticed a potential bro. How? Be humble enough to welcom a hand in friendshp that wil gv room for an opportunity to make an impact. Rather than mak it an issue u murmur or complain abt. Prove the reason for ur creation, try ‘help meet a need’. If things dont work, then u nt his help meet. Xtian v got an heritage dat shldnt b xchanged for anything. I bet u, som men which they cld b so humble to pet their wives as sis.
    Brodaz, pls letz learn to talk abt a potential sis with brethren, its health.

    HAND!

  164. hahahahaaa,wow..so real n worthy of applause. I personally ad issues wt all dos factors u pointed out, bt hw cn u tell a bro dt u’r turning him dwn cos of all ds,,u go carry ”carnal sister label noni”
    thanks l’queen…help us tell them o

  165. Damn…i must try out this scope u just gave out..jxt prays it works out 4 me…HEY DAMSEL!! ur desire 4 love just gave an inspiration or an insight of d real LOVE…I hav always wanted 2 c sumfin lyk dis cus tz my hobby …tanx xo much xoxo

  166. A lot Ø̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ̶̷̩̥̊͡ things cracked me up, especially d part Ø̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ̶̷̩̥̊͡ ‘take it 2 d Lord in prayer’. Tis a lovely piece! Loved it from start 2 finish!!!

  167. A lot Ø̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ̶̷̩̥̊͡ things cracked me up, especially d part Ø̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ̶̷̩̥̊͡ ‘take it 2 d Lord in prayer’. Tis a lovely piece! Loved it from start 2 finish!!!

  168. hmmmmm…. “Sista tolu” lol I cannt help laughing.Really, this is a gud piece and very fundamental to the survival of a close relationship.Keep it up dear u’r going places.

  169. hmmmmm…. “Sista tolu” lol I cannt help laughing.Really, this is a gud piece and very fundamental to the survival of a close relationship.Keep it up dear u’r going places.

  170. It’s a “perspective thing”. If she thinks she has a future with Jay, she should go ahead. Cos there’s no guarantee that her friend that’s not happy for her won’t take the boy if she leaves him for friendship’s sake.

  171. hmmm gone are d days wen love was blind, nowadays love aint blind oooo, na shine ur eyes things. Gues wat love don dey use scanner self. Bt really we av to knw ple we claim to love indepth more dan wat se r led to bliv

  172. Those that deceive just to get what they want,are more or less deceiver(devil) L’queen thank u for this message,i will be wise.

  173. I think that’s the point the write up is actually trying to get across to us all, that in a relationship you need to understand the mood or better put the temperament of ur spouse so dat u will feel less offended or no offence wen d mood swing or anger is exhibited.
    I guess the question should have been how u can work out those issues togeda(because you already know the problem the person has)?
    Nice one semi B-day mate.

  174. Nice write-up again L’Queen. Maintaining a consistent pattern of emotion is actuali important in a relationship,yes. But what about pple that hav issues with their emotions? Azzin,Anger management,low self-esteem,mixed feelings,etc how can dese pple maintain consistency? Keep up d good work. Hav a nice week.:)

  175. let us all remember that hurting people hurt others.See what you have to trade with before you sold out ,instead of playing on peoples emotions.there are better ways to handle things with a lady/guy you never wanna let go.you can still keep people as your best associate instead of hurting them.I think sometimes the wrong person loves right and we get confuse on this.

    1. Hmmnn dats deep! I agree wiv u,its better to tell dem d truth n let dem move on bt u cld still be frnds. Love can be very complicated atimes

      1. U are ryt bMan when ever you have a very good friend, before u asks her/he to go into a relationship pls take your time and think if that person will be good as a friend or a lover. I have some friend which ‘I and them’ CAN never go in to relationship with “I know that and there know that” and we are happy that way. i am a guy and in the place i work their is this gorgeous girl that i am friend with but i can go into relationship with for some personal reasons. but we are still happay the way we are.

  176. Sand castles…hmm…neva built one actuali! X_X…anyway,I really agree with You on dis. I believe dat U r in a relationship in order to find out if U’ll stay with ur partner for life(marriage),and not just to enjoy wat U can get 4rm dat partner for d meantime. It’ll hurt d partners feelings when he/she learns wat U hav been doin…quite painful! I hope dis doesn’t happen to me sha…Nice write-up once again! (Y)

    1. Yu r ryt…its painful to find out u r nt as valuable to d person as u tot u were. I rily hope u dnt av to go thru ds Kable bt den again its kinda inevitable

    2. You are well correct, and i think that sound like a player to me . the best tin is dont go for relationship if ur heart is not in it.

  177. Nice one. You seem to nail it again. Keeping this up will make you a huge success. Love your writing style. Thumbs up to you.

  178. I wasn’t able to read ur piece o, Its blur,the background colour overshadowed the main text… Au I wish its clear…anyways kudos to U̶̲̥̅̊.

  179. I wasn’t able to read ur piece o, Its blur,the background colour overshadowed the main text… Au I wish its clear…anyways kudos to U̶̲̥̅̊.

  180. Some pple are just ‘business like’ let me use that word, they are not emotional at al, my suppose bf is just like that, he’s not on any social media, he doesn’t text, no Goodmorning, mayb because of d distance between us, but he can call for long hours at night, sometimes for 1hr at a stretch, no romantic talk, then I begin to wonder, wat type of man is this, that the only time am on his busy schedule is between 9-10 in d night, I would soon take a drastic action sha, don’t care if his bust, me I need tender-loving-care.

    1. Lol…dimple cheek u r sooo funny. Bt really its understanding dat matters. Maybe u shd let him read this piece too so dat he can be aware of sm of ur expectations in d rshp n u shd also understand dat d fact dat he do d lovey dovey stuffs doesn’t mean he’s not into you. Tnx dear

  181. TLC! (Sounds like d acronym of an eatery!) This is certainly a good thing to practice in a relationship. I believe that the two partners,male and female,should give,and desreve TLC 4rm d other partner. Relationships without TLC are not fun,and can cause a lot of Hurt 4 d partner on d emotional side. Nice writeup once again L’Queen. Hav a lovely week. 😉

  182. There are many pple like dat. They rili care about U̶̲̥̅̊ but dey aint so emotional to show it but deep inside dem, der are 100yards good spouse materials. Just dat dey always have problems with der partners coz dey always fink dey aint caring. In any relationship,wot matter most is understanding. Just understanding dat dats hw dey behave naturally. Der is a scholar dat said “If U̶̲̥̅̊ cnt change somefin, change ur own attitude towards it” it simply means, understand wot U̶̲̥̅̊ cnt change. Nice job my fellow Pradaite,colleague and pal. Thumbs up….

  183. Great work L’queen, love the way you write. Show’s that you’re talented and have a great place amongst todays bloggers and writters. See you at the top.

  184. Great work L’queen, love the way you write. Show’s that you’re talented and have a great place amongst todays bloggers and writters. See you at the top.

  185. I gust u are right Lqueen about the pet name, because even my Mum that is one of the way my sisters get whatever they want from her. i cant tell u my mum’s pet name any way Hahahahaha.
    i will get one for my all my friends

  186. Tanx to our love doctor, can U̶̲̥̅̊ suggest some sweet pet names apart from those U̶̲̥̅̊ av mentioned? Do U̶̲̥̅̊ know y I’m askn? I want sometin unique, not commonly used by people.luv U̶̲̥̅̊ crazy..God will bless those guys that helped U̶̲̥̅̊ in making things happen.. Sugarvon

  187. 1st of all…. As usual nice write up. But wat of ppl like us dat are nt in relationships ni…. And again nowadays in Nigeria the names; boo, darling, dear, honey are actualli used by everybody those single and those who js wanna see a babe smile… So I advice those in relationships to actualli find better and sweeter pet names 😉

    1. Loool Isemhooo…u r ryt tho. A lot of dz pet names av bn overused n abused. Its really advisable ppl in rship find smtin exclusive…it can even b d person’s oda name dat odas dnt knw of…it will b exclusive to you.
      And as for being single,this is nt only for doz in rships we learn everyday for future purposes. Thanks a lot

  188. hmmm pet names am nt gud at dat but i’l consider it.tanks 4 d great work.my regards to those dat helpd in getin dis work done. God bless them

    1. Pls do sis, its a small but vital part of a relationship dat shdnt be overlooked. Thank u for acknowledging the ppl dat helped me

  189. Pet names…hmmm…I actuali hav a problem here…I’m already used to callin my babe by her name.I don’t know what pet name to call her.and she has a pet name 4 me.Is dis bad? 🙁

    1. Lol…if u adopt a pet name now, it might take a while but with time and conscious effort on your part, you’ll get used to it. You shd give her one to since she has one for u. What’s her name? I can help u form a lovely pet name with it…I’m good at that. Lool

    2. Haba that is ‘bad’ of u for her to give u one that means she want one too. well sorry i dont know her name if not i may give u one. Hahaha, but to be serious get one for her (or call her Rain drop)

  190. Nice write up. I really did enjoy that. Though, coincidentally, it is the same middle name as me and my wife. Keep up the good work, I do really want to see you atop. Nice one!

  191. That was great. But the truth, I can’t blame Steven; I mean listing to what he said. He was not after how much he could love her, But what “he could do to keep her forever”. Must relationship are like this today because, relationship today is not about the “Heart” but what you can give. Ok let me use this example. Laura have a friend called Stella. Then Steven got some gift “from his heart” to laura which were some flowers and body spray. On the other hand Stella’s boy friend got her a “hot” Black Berry Phone, a pair of shore, and a body spray. So if you were Laura how will you fill? (BILLS)

  192. That was great. But the truth, I can’t blame Steven; I mean listing to what he said. He was not after how much he could love her, But what “he could do to keep her forever”. Must relationship are like this today because, relationship today is not about the “Heart” but what you can give. Ok let me use this example. Laura have a friend called Stella. Then Steven got some gift “from his heart” to laura which were some flowers and body spray. On the other hand Stella’s boy friend got her a “hot” Black Berry Phone, a pair of shore, and a body spray. So if you were Laura how will you fill? (BILLS)

  193. Very true. I cal it payin attention 2 little details. It goes a long way. Thanks 4 ds beautiful insight Tolu.

  194. Very true!!! Our female friends really need to read this. (No offence). Being in love isn’t all about spending its all about caring and sharing. If someone calls u every mornin to ask how ur slept and u expect him to buy u a range rover b4 u know he loves you….. Trust me u are on a long tin.. Nice 1 again…

  195. Very true!!! Our female friends really need to read this. (No offence). Being in love isn’t all about spending its all about caring and sharing. If someone calls u every mornin to ask how ur slept and u expect him to buy u a range rover b4 u know he loves you….. Trust me u are on a long tin.. Nice 1 again…

  196. Hmm…lovely write up again,L’Queen. Butterflies huh? True,I’ve had that feeling,and I still have it…I think you have the feeling when U really like somebody,not when U love somebody…I’m saying dis,because I’ve experienced it many times,just by seeing my crush(es)..After awhile tho,the butterflies stop…and so does my interest in my crush(es). I think that if U love some1,U’ll feel something more than butterflies in ur tummy…U’ll feel something…*thinking*…unexplainable! I dnt know what it is,but its definately not butterflies. Have a nice week. 🙂

  197. The woman needs humility to conquer & d man shld love her so as 2 get her submissiveness- Apostle Paul urged d husbands 1st to love & care 4 their wives before encouraging the wives to submit & respect their husbands. A times in dis kind of situatn where d wife earns more, she might not be d one who‘s pompous. It could be dat d man is intimidated by wat she has. So men shld nt loose their self-esteem bcos their wives are taking d financial lead. Wives shld be humble as God resists d proud & husbands shld be supportive & wud see how submissive highly-paid wives could be…

  198. Thank you great minds. I have really learnt a lot today. I met a woman at my former place of work. n a second,I knew she called the shot at home,as she flaunted the fact that she was sponsoring d family of 4 to the UK. As d husband looked on like a zoombie or betterstill,’yes-ma’am dude. LQ,has cleared that assertion that all women r like that. The blunt and trying truth is that,this will happen to one or a couple of us(that’s life for you). Guess,these truths/facts ll be the spark of light in your dark hour. Conclusively,let us free our minds from traditions(like okunrin lada et al) ‘there is nothing we have that we are we are not given’. God is the giver of all good things. With this thought,I’m more humbled cos I know I’m His steward and I re-present d King. God bless you! God bless dear LQ!!

  199. After all thats been said, i really think money is not and issue in any relationship that kicked off on the right foot, cos thats the foundation of every BUILT TO LAST relationship (kicking of on the right foot), i have a lot of female friends and 90% of them are “richer” than i am, but the one the i have with them is the respect i have earned. we leave in a society were MONEY talks and i know thats y ona’s friends and mum r on her neck about quitting the whole thing. but like i said if the relationship started on the right foot, Money wont be an issue. i think i can testify to that, cos my wife to be is FAR richer than me now, she earns about 5 times what i earn now, but d love we share is based on trust and friendship, in my little way i express my love by traveling about 19 hours just to spend 2 days with her, and buy her the things i KNOW she NEEDS b4 she gets them, yes it takes a lot of communication, savings and planning but it is not impossible. Above all we CONSCIOUSLY choose to be different from everyone else in d issue of relationship, so 3rd party and by talks are not things we listen to, yes there are sometimes when richer guys flaunt what they have to impress her, but she knows money cant buy friendship, love, peace and happiness, cos if u have these(friendship, love, peace and happiness) only God can put a stop to that relationship.

  200. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.wat an issue.my own opinion, as far as there is love , mutual understanding and its d will of God.who says d man cant earn more later.all dat matters is dat there’s income to raise and meet there needs. And to the ladies,if u a in such position dont act lyk God its a priviledge, above all be submissive.

  201. That a woman earns more than her man doesn’t or shouldn’t make her the man in the relationship.D key attribute missing in d life of any woman who can’t love her man perfectly bcos of his social status is HUMILITY.If u hav a man who is hardworking,Godfearing&as a gd Vision,u can b sure his status will b better&u’ll also benefit from it as his woman. D most important thing is love a man for who he is &nt what he is bcos wen something goes wrong with what he,who he is sustains ur relationship.

  202. I dont think its bad for a man to love/marry a woman with a higher pay-grade. Its just that some women believe that since they earn more,the man should be more or less,the woman. I think time should be given,and patience exercised in the relationship.

  203. I feel one major thing dat kills d relationship is d third party thing….do what u feel is right in ur own opinion n talk less to pple about how much u or ur spouse earns….must everyone know who is paying d bills? Even when u buy things,u can still make ur husband feel like he bought it by saying u bought it with d token he gave u (even when d money isn’t enuf in actual sense)….once u fEel ryt about d guy (I don’t mean falling heels over head with d guy o)..lyk u r in ur ryt senses n u can feel good with d guy,then go ahead n let ur parents c reasons with u….others’ opinions don’t matter a bit…God help us all sha…it is well

  204. Dear writer,you have said it all with the analogy of Barak and Michelle Obama and also the scripture from the book of Job.
    By and large, everything and every decision is all about choice. The choices we make determines how far we go in life.
    This is my submission.

    1. Dear reader, thank u so much for reading. As u said, at the end of the day its d choices we make dat determine the path our lives will take…God help us all

  205. it doesn’t matter if the wowan earn more money than the man,my advice is if both of them are compatable they should go ahead with the relationship.

  206. Well I think most wifes earning much more than the husbands are usually very proud and pompus, a minute with the couples in their homes and u can guess who’s actually paying more of the bills…I just think its in Women DNA to be that way when they earn more, unless she’s a woman after God’s heart

    1. I quite agree wiv u,Andy. But thank God u said most and not all, a woman with the fear of God will know that her husband is her crown whether or not she’s the bread winner of the family. Thanks fr reading

  207. I luv dis tolu u hv really tried by sharing more light on d issue of a combact relationship. d bible says he who find a wife found a good thing, as 4 me beating a woman in a relationship is nt really d best option if u notice dat ur lady is d type dat is nt given u respect jst try and calm her down and give her word of advise and encouragemnt, orientiate her make her knw hw u feel and believe u me she wl correct her self cos dos ladies of nw adays dey are very sensitive and fragile in nature so guys please stop d habit of beating ur woman and u ladies respect ur guy cos wen u dnt it fustrate a guy and mks him jump into psycomental drastic decision. I pray d lord in is infinte mercy wl teaches us hw 2 live and show luv 2 our partner. Peace be unto u tolu and peace be unto every one in dis room.

  208. It is an age long and outdated approach as of the days of our fore fathers that men batter women. Back then, the man was considered to be manly, in recent times, it is cowardice. A brave man does not beat a woman, rather protects her.

  209. It is an age long and outdated approach as of the days of our fore fathers that men batter woman. Back then, the man was considered to be manly, in recent times, it is cowardice. A brave man does not beat a woman, rather protects her.

  210. Beat her oh!!!!! Lol!! Jes kiddin!!!!! Its very wrong to hit a woman, no matter how tempermental you are ….. Its jes wrong….. The babe shud berra open her eyes oh. Is dat 1 love that they will be beatin u like goat

  211. Hmmm! A lot of tins I wnt to say…….. D truth of the matter is dis tins happen a lot and dese women don’t voice out. Some make d mistake by tinking wen dey get married it would stop, bt it doesn’t I knw of sumone who was killed n butchered! Its dt bad. D most annoying tin is if u advice d lady to leave she would say she will die if she does, my question is dt wasn’t she living before she met d guy? Wot is she didn’t meet him wouldn’t she have lived her life? Dis situation really needs to be addressed
    The men dt do d beating, my observation is dt most av pscychological problems, I knw of someone who just sleeps with girls why? D fatger abuses him so d best way he tinks is to let it all go is by having sex. Until he met a pscychologist before it was solved. So my point is dose dt best dier babes need a pscychologist, I believe there is sometin wrong dt is making him do dt!
    I av a lot to comment on this bt I will advice ladies to use their head more and their heart less wen in a r/ship and anyone going tru dis should PLEASE voice out b4 she loses her life.
    Tolu I am very proud of u! Keep it up

  212. Good one sis! I have seen it happeng, back in d sch days, there’s a lady dat stays beside my room then, she will feed ds guy and his friends everyday. She cooks like she’s operating a canteen, and rit in the night, ds guy will tell her d particular sex position he likes and if she doesn’t agree, he will beat the hell out of her to tgh extend that we “l hear hery cry and all . This repeats itsef till dey both left the sch and rit now the guy got married to someone else. I don’t knw if the lady is married or not!! I just pray one day ladies will start getting it right.

  213. I’ve been a relationship in which the girl literary asked me to beat when ever she er’s…it was indeed 1 of the most complicated relationship ever for me…my point is some girls actually relish in the “Molestating”. Anyway its simple, if you don’t like being treated that way walk-out on the relationship,except you’re the type that enjoys it.

  214. A man who raises his hand to beats a woman is a coward for crying out loud.Why on earth will u beat a woman,for what reason?I found it cracy as an act,such men shud be taking to the zoo.Women are meant to be pampered,care 4,protect n help her,be there 4 @ all times.They are weaker vessels,d statement does not conote inferiority complex but in terms of emotions.Men are rigid,women are not.Please any woman who is into any wrong relationship shud desist 4rm it.A man who treats his woman like a princess shows he was raised by a queen,the one who beats his woman shows he was raised by a fighter.

  215. i cant imagine mysef being beaten by a man all 4 luv,datz going to b d end of d so cald relatnship. To d guys, if a lady gives u a hrt it shows she loves u,y beat her back,irrespective of anytin neva beat her,beta stil if u a angry wt her take a walk to get off d present situatn,bt raisin ur hand at her shows u dnt luv her . And to d ladies,neva wait til u a beaten,itz nt a sign of comitment.if he can beat u in a relatnship wat will apen wen u a married.take ur stand @ Tolulope, wat a gud work u a doing.keep it up.expect more of it,av a grt week. Much luv

  216. I agree that its Very wrong for men to hit women. But I jus don’t understand why women,who get beaten in their relationships,decide to stay with the same man and they keep on getting beaten,Its just stupidity. Nice write-up tho. Hav a lovely week.

    1. Yea dats true,Kable. Some of dem do it for the love,some for fear of loneliness and some bcoz of wat dey get frm d guy…so many reasons bt d best tin is to jst run frm such a guy. Have a lovely week dear

  217. Nice write-up Tolu. Kudos to u. The very day a guy raises his hand to beat his lady, dat lady should know that it is just the begining of the beating becos , he will not stop,so it is better to quit such relationship. such a guy is animalistic in behaviour. Young lady, you need a gentle man, though nobody is perfect but once beating is out of it, den u are a bit free.
    say no to domestic violence against women.
    there are millions of guys out there that won’t hit their babes. enter a relationship with both heart and head please.

  218. And to ladies any man dat raises his arm against you has no good intention on you,love is for correction not beating or abusive comment.

  219. Nice article tolu….reminds mε̲̣ of chris brown -n rihanna
    D trruth my dear.. Is that  force of love defies normal reasoning…not onli has this ‘illogicalness’ been noticed in man,but in animals also…..there’s supposedly this female bird that keeps mating wth a male even wheh he drives her away forcefully…

    As it applied 2 animals,so it does 2d opposite sex… Guys that love grls that treat them badly and keep forgivin….
    This ‘blindness’ all stems from virtues love confer.. such as forgiveness and hope…

    Like socrates said,love is a second name 4 madness..never blame a person in love..people hav done worse things in d name of love….

    1. Thanks Tunji…Love shd be a cover,a place where u feel safe. As far as I am concerned whenever beating comes in,its time to take flight and leave such a relationship

  220. I know hitting a woman is bad and its only someone who doesn’t respect himself let alone his woman that will do that…but what about a woman that hits or slaps her man…what should the man do?

    1. Lol Andy..I’m not saying its only men that engage in domestic abuse,women do too in some cases but you wld agree wiv me dat the former is more rampant and women are more prone to injuries and sometimes death in such cases. If a woman hits a man,I feel its wisdom for him to leave her and walk away,because if he shd hit her then he has joined her in doing wrong.

  221. This really happens. Loads of young ladies r dieing in silence and obsession. They must speak up,get help and be mentally and psychologically counselled. I say no to domestic violence. Bullyin’ dudes if you wan fight then get punching bags or Mike Tyson. *tongue-out*

  222. You really av a point in wot you said, truthfully most ppl don’t settle these thins or talk abt it befor getting married that’s why divorce is on the high side. Personally I tink marraige is beyound Love cos there are some situations that will come up that will question one’s love for his/her spouse. I also belive marraige is for d husband, wife and God any oda person shud’nt take decisions or determine wot should happen in the home. May our marraiges be heaven on earth. Well done dear

  223. You really av a point in wot you said, truthfully most ppl don’t settle these thins or talk abt it befor getting married that’s why divorce is on the high side. Personally I tink marraige is beyound Love cos there are some situations that will come up that will question one’s love for his/her spouse. I also belive marraige is for d husband, wife and God any oda person shud’nt take decisions or determine wot should happen in the home. May our marraiges be heaven on earth. Well done dear

  224. Lovely write-up once again. I commend ur hard-work. U are really helping a lot of relationships. Keep up the good work. (Y)

    1. Thank u dear,KABLE of life!! It brings me so much joy to write things that can be of help in relationships…let’s say I am an advocate of TRUE LOVE *winks*

  225. Lovely write-up once again. I commend ur hard-work. U are really helping a lot of relationships. Keep up the good work. (Y)

  226. About the health issues, growing fat is a great concern to many guys I know. At times I wonder why men don’t want their women to grow fat even after they’re the ones who made them that way…