The Best Way to resolve issues with your Nigerian man

Lessons from 7 years of marriage Lqueenwrites

Relationships and marriages without any disagreements are unreal! Especially when you’re with a Nigerian man, fight must dey one way or the other! Too much ego…lol.

Frankly tho, If you really love each other and have spent quality time understanding each other you’ll find out that you have a lot of differences. These differences or misunderstandings could result in arguments and if not properly managed could lead to a breakup or even bigger fights in a marriage.

To easily resolve conflict with your Nigerian man you should try using the I position method.

“I-position” is a communication technique that can be used to resolve conflicts in a relationship. It involves expressing your own thoughts, feelings, and opinions in a non-confrontational way, without blaming or accusing the other person. Naturally, Nigerian men like to be respected and they don’t like to be confronted in a rude or accusatory way. The way you present an issue will often determine the manner of response you’ll get from a Nigerian man.

The Best Way to resolve issues with your Nigerian man

Here are the steps to use the “I-position” technique to resolve conflict with your Nigerian man.

1. Start by taking responsibility for your own feelings and thoughts. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For example, instead of saying “you never listen to me,” say “I feel unheard and frustrated when I share my thoughts and you don’t respond.”

2. Avoid blaming or accusing your partner. Instead, focus on your own experience. For example, instead of saying “you always forget important things,” say “I feel disappointed and let down when things get forgotten.”

3. Be clear and specific about what you want or need. For example, instead of saying “you never help around the house,” say “I feel overwhelmed with all the household tasks and would appreciate it if we could divide them up more equally.”

4. Listen actively to your partner’s response, and be open to their point of view. Try to understand their perspective, and respond with empathy and validation. For example, if they say they forget things because they are stressed, you could say “I understand that you are under a lot of pressure, and I still need to be able to rely on you to remember important things.”

5. Work together to find a solution that meets both of your needs. Be willing to compromise and find a middle ground. For example, you could agree to set reminders for important tasks or to have a shared calendar to keep track of appointments.

Using the “I-position” technique can help you communicate more effectively and resolve conflicts in a respectful and constructive way. Remember to focus on your own feelings and needs, listen actively to your partner, and work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

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