What are the reasons people stay in relationships they are always complaining about?

You must have seen it before, a man or a woman always complaining about their partner but refusing to pull the plug that connects them to that person. Maybe you, maybe a friend, your sister or colleague at work.

This situation can occur for a good number of reasons, yet the most common reason why people stay in unhappy relationships is because people become exhausted/careless and complacent with focusing on their partners or the growth of their relationship or they might be getting too comfortable in the relationship and they never consider the thought of starting over with someone else. Certain individuals would prefer to remain in an unhappy relationship than wind up being single once more.

Lets take a more in-depth look into some reasons why people stay in unhappy relationships

#1 – Bored and tired of your significant other.

This is particularly normal when you have been with somebody for quite a while, you are bored but there’s no real reason or fight to cause you to leave. Progressing as a couple means putting in adequate effort in that relationship for the good of each other. Sadly, a lot of people get complacent after a few months or years and the bond they once shared begins to gradually ebb out. It is so normal for a plant to die when no one is watering or catering to it, the same thing applies to relationships.

Relationships are just like a full-time job, and they only get better if you put your best foot forward and continually be on top of your game even as an individual because it won’t always be up to the other person to make you happy. For some reason a lot of people in relationships today still don’t get this!

We should all figure out how to be separate from everyone else, have a clear vision for our individual lives, and be content with ourselves before we focus on someone else. It isn’t your significant other’s responsibility to make you “feel good” however you must do your part in ensuring that you are bringing the joy from your individual life into your relationship.

Grumbling to others, colleagues and friends about your partner is not worth it. Your issues should be discussed with the person involved first because it’s actually no one’s business except for yours. It’s okay to seek professional help if you think it’s necessary to help you keep things going but try resolving your issues as a couple first.

The grass isn’t always greener elsewhere, so fantasizing about how great someone new is treating you or how good your friend’s relationship appears to be on the surface is not the answer. I realize that’s another reason people get bored of their partners, someone new is not the answer! You’re simply going to bring similar issues into your next relationship if you don’t figure out how to resolve issues and spice up the relationship you’re in at this point. You experienced passionate feelings in the past with this same person, so if properly handled the boredom or tired feeling between you could be easily resolved if you both put in the energy and commitment to make it work.

Ensure you keep on doing things together. Couples that spend quality time together, remain together! The more you prioritize your relationship and realize the significance of continually keeping things new to keep your dating experience fresh, the better for you!

#2 – Are you avoiding responsibility?

In the event that you or somebody you are in a relationship with is avoiding responsibility, there could be unintentional or intentional sabotage. Some people refuse to put in enough effort for fear that the relationship might not work so they are constantly questioning themselves and refusing to do what’s necessary to advance or grow their relationship. Some start this right from the first date! They already feel this is not going to last, I shouldn’t get my hopes up.

You could likewise be subverting your joy because of “a dread that things won’t work out,” so you really start the end thinking of a breakup before they do. You begin to track down shortcomings in your partner and whine concerning irrelevant things just to prove that your sabotaging thoughts are right.

#3 – Are you depressed?

A few people aren’t even mindful that they might be depressed. This could be a result of an awful separation from quite a while ago, or by and large because of a traumatic or cold past.

Most people find a way to cover these feelings and simply forge ahead, not really seeing the amount it is influencing their grown-up relationship decisions. Truly ponder this and wonder why are you truly in a relationship that you are not genuinely happy about? What are you hiding from or enabling by doing that? Could it be said that you are simply remaining there because you are afraid of being alone? Isn’t it more pitiable to be in a sad relationship than to be single?

#4 – Settling with somebody just to be seeing someone

Sadly, this is what a lot of people do the moment they feel they are meant to start seeing someone, they haven’t actually met the individual who ticks off of the boxes on their spec list. They might just be bowing to pressure from friends and family to get hitched or the pressure to have a child before a certain age. Whatever the reason, in the long run, people simply decide to settle for whatever comes with the conclusion that there’s no perfect partner and end up unfulfilling relationships.

Time passes and they eventually realize their mistakes but it’s too late to do anything about it, so they stay stuck!

How would I get my unhappy relationship in the groove again?

Things between a couple should be intentional and happy for it to last a lifetime. You want to cherish and regard each other with your entire heart, and genuinely want the best for your significant other. Certainly, it can’t always be rosy all along coz sometimes even your life partner would do things or say things that hurt you and that is absolutely normal. However, it’s when the issues can not be resolved or one party seems to have given up on your bond that’s when you should throw in the towel.

Every couple on the planet have their own Big ISSUES, however, constantly speaking ill of your partner and saying negative things about your relationship will only make matters worse. You need to be positive and surround yourself with like-minded individuals who can encourage you and advise you objectively without taking sides. Your relationship should be a safe haven where you have a solid sense of reassurance, so if you are not happy, be open and discuss with your partner, not outsiders. If things have gone bad beyond redemption then you can decide to move on but don’t stay stuck in an unhappy relationship for fear of being alone.

Love,

Tolu

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